by: Ruth Purple
“Not tonight, Josephine” even the famous conqueror Napoleon Bonaparte can decline the carnal needs from the Empress Josephine because of stress… well I’m not sure about that but basically most couple compromise their sex- life because of too much pressure. If only I’d get a penny for every man and woman who complains of having less and less sex, I’d be a very rich woman by now.
One of the main reasons why there is a decline in a couple’s sex life, especially for long term lovers is the dominant presence of anxiety, distress, pressure coupled with over familiarity and too many obligation. Some couples may be unaware with the fact that sex plays an important role in the relationship; it keeps you closer and more intimate.
Believe me, a sexless union will eventually takes its toll. The best way to prevent this from happening is to re-think your views about it. Never think that sex is an additional burden or “obligation” to be done on the contrary it can be a perfect tool to relieve stress.
Yes, it has been proven that it is a perfect way to relieve stress. First and foremost, a good copulation equates good mood. So, if you want your husband or you to be always grinning from ear to ear try to get some great dose of coitus every night. And add some color into it, don’t just wham it then snore yourself to sleep.
Give time for foreplays. If both of you are tired and exhausted from all the days work, rub some massage oil with each other and take turns giving a very sensual massage. A sensual massage is always one of the best foreplay there is and of course a perfect way to relieve stress.
Here are some more reasons why intercourse is an excellent way to relieve stress. It includes deep breathing. Deep, relaxed breathing relaxes stressed- out body and oxygenates the blood. Aside from deep breathing, the sense of touch soothes every anxiety and worry, making you feel comforted and supported. And scientifically speaking, during copulation, your body releases endorphins, the hormone responsible for making you feel good all over.
The physical work out involved during intercourse is also a certain way to relieve stress but don’t over do the physical activity or you’ll suffer from over fatigue. How to relieve stress using sex is the most effective way to bring back the spark to your relationship. So, instead of using other alternatives to relieve stress why not use sex with your one and only instead, it’s good for you.
Jumat, 10 Februari 2012
Sexual Pleasure Your Man Would Love For You To Know
by: Ruth Purple
Ever been curious to know what mind blowing sexual pleasure your man would truly appreciate? More important, what tricks a girl does to really thrill him and maximize each level of bliss he hits. We’d probably think that one has to know how a guy thinks and understand his bodily function.
So, what exactly are ways to make him want you bad? A guy’s desire can be triggered by almost anything, a subtle stroke, a provocative visual, the sound of a woman’s voice at a certain pitch. As soon as you man’s mind switch over to sex, his body begins to prickle with anticipation.
The male mind holds great power over his physical state, so the key to pleasure your man is to use teasing preplay moves that will make him ache for you. Take advantage of his physically on edge–state. Keep him guessing where your lips and strokes will hit next which are some ways to make him want you.
Show him that you feel the difference in intensity. To pleasure your man, try to get a little rough with him from time to time. Allow his passion to be both contained and provoked. Pay attention to his shoulder blades, spine and butt. Before you take him to heaven, lightly scratch those nails over those areas.
The nerves near his spine and waist are directly connected to his package. Then flick the tiny knob of flesh on the underside of his penis head with the flat of your tongue. Sending that shock through his system before he enters you will trigger a chain reaction that would pleasure your man.
If you sense your guy’s drive is dwindling, whip out some dirty talks. Tell your guy how hot you feel with him inside you, and throw out some sexy requests. Create the cocktail of sensations to pleasure your man by giving him what he craves. Just remember, don’t loose him too soon.
Pay attention to his body, and slow down when he reaches over drive. The longer you keep him in this holding pattern, the more pleasurable the explosion will be for him and the more you are likely to get yours. Stimulate him throughout the orgasm is important to pleasure your man.
You can do that by pulling your guy deep inside you as he ejaculates to create an intense, powerfully connected sensation. While sensitivity subsides, trace your fingertips over the upper half of his body. These movements soothe his skin and reinforce your bond to a loving relationship.
Ever been curious to know what mind blowing sexual pleasure your man would truly appreciate? More important, what tricks a girl does to really thrill him and maximize each level of bliss he hits. We’d probably think that one has to know how a guy thinks and understand his bodily function.
So, what exactly are ways to make him want you bad? A guy’s desire can be triggered by almost anything, a subtle stroke, a provocative visual, the sound of a woman’s voice at a certain pitch. As soon as you man’s mind switch over to sex, his body begins to prickle with anticipation.
The male mind holds great power over his physical state, so the key to pleasure your man is to use teasing preplay moves that will make him ache for you. Take advantage of his physically on edge–state. Keep him guessing where your lips and strokes will hit next which are some ways to make him want you.
Show him that you feel the difference in intensity. To pleasure your man, try to get a little rough with him from time to time. Allow his passion to be both contained and provoked. Pay attention to his shoulder blades, spine and butt. Before you take him to heaven, lightly scratch those nails over those areas.
The nerves near his spine and waist are directly connected to his package. Then flick the tiny knob of flesh on the underside of his penis head with the flat of your tongue. Sending that shock through his system before he enters you will trigger a chain reaction that would pleasure your man.
If you sense your guy’s drive is dwindling, whip out some dirty talks. Tell your guy how hot you feel with him inside you, and throw out some sexy requests. Create the cocktail of sensations to pleasure your man by giving him what he craves. Just remember, don’t loose him too soon.
Pay attention to his body, and slow down when he reaches over drive. The longer you keep him in this holding pattern, the more pleasurable the explosion will be for him and the more you are likely to get yours. Stimulate him throughout the orgasm is important to pleasure your man.
You can do that by pulling your guy deep inside you as he ejaculates to create an intense, powerfully connected sensation. While sensitivity subsides, trace your fingertips over the upper half of his body. These movements soothe his skin and reinforce your bond to a loving relationship.
Sexy Marketing is the Name of the Game
by: Kaye Z. Marks
Anticipation is the name of the game. This is to suggest that one of the best ways to market is to create anticipation from your target clients. Why do movies have trailers? Why are movie trailers shown months before the actual showing of the film?
Why are there words like coming soon? You guessed that right. Anticipation. Trailers are like teasers – they build the drama, the anticipation, the excitement. This is one way to market a product or service.
Now use this concept for your product or services by teasing your target clients. The more intrigued they get, the more they become excited. Have you ever wondered why you are drawn to a crowd who is watching something? You find yourself straining to see what the fuss is about. Admit it or not, the crowd does draw you because you are intrigued by what captured their attention.
One way to do this is by distributing teasers like flyers or print brochures to tease target clients about an up and coming product or service. Try to give them a glimpse of what they are going to expect – just like your movie trailers. Give them a glimpse of what they are to look forward to without giving away the entire plot. Make your brochure printing work for you by keeping them so interested. Reveal only what is necessary until your target clients are hooked.
Anticipation marketing, if we can call it that, not only introduces a new product or service, it also keeps the excitement going as early as the pre-launch stage. Until such time that you finally unveil your new product or service, you can feed the excitement. Start by giving your customers a glimpse then move on to giving more details without giving away everything. Build the excitement until your customers can no longer contain it – then you reach a climax.
When you employ this strategy, remember the following tips:
Build the excitement but do not keep them waiting too long. Foreplay is good; but overdoing things will not do you any better. Holding off until climax is good; but it is also a better idea not to drag your marketing strategy for far too long that your target clients get frustrated waiting for it. Before wearing out your clients’ patience, launch the offer with the right timing.
Be enigmatic. Let imaginations run wild. Tease – that is the name of the game. Offer something little by little. Do not reveal everything in one print brochure. This is not a one shot deal. Undress your product slowly by tossing print brochures one piece at a time.
The key to using this strategy is sustaining the momentum. You cannot start something that will fizzle out. You have to sustain the buildup; but be sure that the product or service is as good as the foreplay, otherwise, well….
Visit http://www.printplace.com/printing/brochure-printing.aspx for more information.
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Anticipation is the name of the game. This is to suggest that one of the best ways to market is to create anticipation from your target clients. Why do movies have trailers? Why are movie trailers shown months before the actual showing of the film?
Why are there words like coming soon? You guessed that right. Anticipation. Trailers are like teasers – they build the drama, the anticipation, the excitement. This is one way to market a product or service.
Now use this concept for your product or services by teasing your target clients. The more intrigued they get, the more they become excited. Have you ever wondered why you are drawn to a crowd who is watching something? You find yourself straining to see what the fuss is about. Admit it or not, the crowd does draw you because you are intrigued by what captured their attention.
One way to do this is by distributing teasers like flyers or print brochures to tease target clients about an up and coming product or service. Try to give them a glimpse of what they are going to expect – just like your movie trailers. Give them a glimpse of what they are to look forward to without giving away the entire plot. Make your brochure printing work for you by keeping them so interested. Reveal only what is necessary until your target clients are hooked.
Anticipation marketing, if we can call it that, not only introduces a new product or service, it also keeps the excitement going as early as the pre-launch stage. Until such time that you finally unveil your new product or service, you can feed the excitement. Start by giving your customers a glimpse then move on to giving more details without giving away everything. Build the excitement until your customers can no longer contain it – then you reach a climax.
When you employ this strategy, remember the following tips:
Build the excitement but do not keep them waiting too long. Foreplay is good; but overdoing things will not do you any better. Holding off until climax is good; but it is also a better idea not to drag your marketing strategy for far too long that your target clients get frustrated waiting for it. Before wearing out your clients’ patience, launch the offer with the right timing.
Be enigmatic. Let imaginations run wild. Tease – that is the name of the game. Offer something little by little. Do not reveal everything in one print brochure. This is not a one shot deal. Undress your product slowly by tossing print brochures one piece at a time.
The key to using this strategy is sustaining the momentum. You cannot start something that will fizzle out. You have to sustain the buildup; but be sure that the product or service is as good as the foreplay, otherwise, well….
Visit http://www.printplace.com/printing/brochure-printing.aspx for more information.
brochure printing, print brochures, anticipation marketing, brochures
Why Sex Is Important To Men
by: Ruth Purple
I know, I know some would say that what a ridiculous statement, of course it is important to men but why? Some say that they think about it twenty three hours a day, seven days a week. Even the most famous psychologist, Freud agreed that it is the main goal of men- to get sex when they need it.
To them it signifies power and success. To majority of them money, power and success is futile if you can’t get it. Some would deny it and say “no, it is not everything. It’s not my end all and be all motivation” if you are one of these male population, then good for you, you are a minority, believe me.
One proof of this is the ever thriving sex trade, right? It is the oldest trade in history and it only advances as the years go by. They say the weakness of men is women but I say their weakness is what women can offer and it is sex. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that men are shallow creatures.
On the contrary, I believe that this creates a balance in the universe. Sex is important to men because of so many reasons. Aside that it really feels great. It has to do with the old age inculcation that they should spread their seeds and genes as much as they can for the survival of the species.
During the old days men have several wives. As a matter of fact, even today in some countries, concubines and mistresses are an acceptable practice to multiply the man’s gene pool. In this case sex is important for the continued existence of the species. On a personal note, I don’t feel comfortable with this idea at all.
It makes human beings no less than bears and dogs, if you know what I mean. Another reason why sex is important to men is because of their biological make up. They have more testosterone than women. Testosterone is responsible for the sexual drive of a person, the more the testosterone the more sexually driven the person is.
This is why they have an inborn need for it. Another point why sex is important to men is because it’s the only way for them to communicate their feelings. Deprive them of it and you deprive their feelings and their being. Sex is to men and listening is to women.
If you’re a woman and your husband never listens to you, what do you do? You call your girlfriend or whoever you want to listen to you, right? For men, deprive them of sex and he will look for it somewhere else. It’s not just a biological need for them.
It’s also an emotional need- this is one of the major ways that you can make him feel that he belongs. Sex is important because it’s the only way that they can get their “power”. If you’re a wife and have been married for quite some time, change your point of view about it, if you want your husband to feel good and accepted and become productive at work, never deprive him of it.
Communicate to him through his language he is very familiar with. When making love, use more touches and caresses and kisses, embrace him more. In your love making make him feel that he is accepted and truly loved and cared for. Make it intimate and make it fun, listen to him when he makes love because if you listen to him inside the bedroom he will listen to you outside the bedroom.
I know, I know some would say that what a ridiculous statement, of course it is important to men but why? Some say that they think about it twenty three hours a day, seven days a week. Even the most famous psychologist, Freud agreed that it is the main goal of men- to get sex when they need it.
To them it signifies power and success. To majority of them money, power and success is futile if you can’t get it. Some would deny it and say “no, it is not everything. It’s not my end all and be all motivation” if you are one of these male population, then good for you, you are a minority, believe me.
One proof of this is the ever thriving sex trade, right? It is the oldest trade in history and it only advances as the years go by. They say the weakness of men is women but I say their weakness is what women can offer and it is sex. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that men are shallow creatures.
On the contrary, I believe that this creates a balance in the universe. Sex is important to men because of so many reasons. Aside that it really feels great. It has to do with the old age inculcation that they should spread their seeds and genes as much as they can for the survival of the species.
During the old days men have several wives. As a matter of fact, even today in some countries, concubines and mistresses are an acceptable practice to multiply the man’s gene pool. In this case sex is important for the continued existence of the species. On a personal note, I don’t feel comfortable with this idea at all.
It makes human beings no less than bears and dogs, if you know what I mean. Another reason why sex is important to men is because of their biological make up. They have more testosterone than women. Testosterone is responsible for the sexual drive of a person, the more the testosterone the more sexually driven the person is.
This is why they have an inborn need for it. Another point why sex is important to men is because it’s the only way for them to communicate their feelings. Deprive them of it and you deprive their feelings and their being. Sex is to men and listening is to women.
If you’re a woman and your husband never listens to you, what do you do? You call your girlfriend or whoever you want to listen to you, right? For men, deprive them of sex and he will look for it somewhere else. It’s not just a biological need for them.
It’s also an emotional need- this is one of the major ways that you can make him feel that he belongs. Sex is important because it’s the only way that they can get their “power”. If you’re a wife and have been married for quite some time, change your point of view about it, if you want your husband to feel good and accepted and become productive at work, never deprive him of it.
Communicate to him through his language he is very familiar with. When making love, use more touches and caresses and kisses, embrace him more. In your love making make him feel that he is accepted and truly loved and cared for. Make it intimate and make it fun, listen to him when he makes love because if you listen to him inside the bedroom he will listen to you outside the bedroom.
Losing Her Interest In Sex? Cure Your Premature Ejaculation
by: Ruth Purple
Men hate to talk about this. It’s either they deny the problem and shove it off in the back of their minds or they are too embarrassed to discuss it. For those with innocent minds, let me explain to you what premature ejaculation is, it is the most common sexual dysfunction.
It is a man’s inability to keep it up. Some say that it is being gauged from the time of penetration to the time of ejaculation but personally I think it is based on the ability to wait for his woman to climax. If you are suffering from any physiological aspect that contributes to your premature ejaculation, then go and get help, for goodness sake! But on the other hand, if the issue here is other than physiological then better do something about it.
A man who premature ejaculates without any clinical reason is just so inconsiderate. It is a small price to pay to conquer your ego than to give your woman a headache. On average they say that men ejaculate 3 minutes from penetration to orgasm. We women call it the 3 minute- marathon.
You know that your have a 3- minute man if you make love with the television on and he finishes off before the commercial. But seriously, the issue about premature ejaculation is control. And being a “man” is all about control. That’s why when you have a premature ejaculation issues, there is a stigma that you are less of a man.
But I say, it takes a man to conquer his weaknesses for the satisfaction of his woman. To help you with that, my sturdy young reader, here are some few ways on how to stop premature ejaculation. One helpful tip is to get to know your territory. This means you should be more aware of yourself when you are about to climax so that you can control it.
Try using the “start and stop” method. This is when you familiarize yourself with the sensation before orgasm then you stop it. You can master this through practice. Masturbation is one technique, at least now you have an excuse to masturbate regularly. Another technique on how to stop premature ejaculation is through proper breathing.
Not the laborious kind of breathing but the deep, easy and relaxed breathing. Another way to cure your premature ejaculation is through communication. Tell your partner what you can and cannot take anymore. This is can really spice up your sex life because this involves provocative words like, “Yes…that’s it more, more…” or “hold it” “wait” or “slowly” or “stop”.
If it’s not a clinical issue then there is nothing that communication cannot solve. If you’re really having a hard time, try some desensitizing creams. My point here is your problem has a solution.
Men hate to talk about this. It’s either they deny the problem and shove it off in the back of their minds or they are too embarrassed to discuss it. For those with innocent minds, let me explain to you what premature ejaculation is, it is the most common sexual dysfunction.
It is a man’s inability to keep it up. Some say that it is being gauged from the time of penetration to the time of ejaculation but personally I think it is based on the ability to wait for his woman to climax. If you are suffering from any physiological aspect that contributes to your premature ejaculation, then go and get help, for goodness sake! But on the other hand, if the issue here is other than physiological then better do something about it.
A man who premature ejaculates without any clinical reason is just so inconsiderate. It is a small price to pay to conquer your ego than to give your woman a headache. On average they say that men ejaculate 3 minutes from penetration to orgasm. We women call it the 3 minute- marathon.
You know that your have a 3- minute man if you make love with the television on and he finishes off before the commercial. But seriously, the issue about premature ejaculation is control. And being a “man” is all about control. That’s why when you have a premature ejaculation issues, there is a stigma that you are less of a man.
But I say, it takes a man to conquer his weaknesses for the satisfaction of his woman. To help you with that, my sturdy young reader, here are some few ways on how to stop premature ejaculation. One helpful tip is to get to know your territory. This means you should be more aware of yourself when you are about to climax so that you can control it.
Try using the “start and stop” method. This is when you familiarize yourself with the sensation before orgasm then you stop it. You can master this through practice. Masturbation is one technique, at least now you have an excuse to masturbate regularly. Another technique on how to stop premature ejaculation is through proper breathing.
Not the laborious kind of breathing but the deep, easy and relaxed breathing. Another way to cure your premature ejaculation is through communication. Tell your partner what you can and cannot take anymore. This is can really spice up your sex life because this involves provocative words like, “Yes…that’s it more, more…” or “hold it” “wait” or “slowly” or “stop”.
If it’s not a clinical issue then there is nothing that communication cannot solve. If you’re really having a hard time, try some desensitizing creams. My point here is your problem has a solution.
Sexual Confidence Boosters For Him
by: Ruth Purple
Not all men are born like Casanova, whose amorous charms no woman can resist. It is not unusual for men to experience a sudden lack of sexual confidence around women. In fact, a lot of guys usually feel some form of anxiety because of being unsure of what to do to satisfy their partner in bed.
As a result, they end up projecting a nervous attitude towards sex which seriously affects their performance in the bedroom. However, there are also men who just seem to have such incredible confidence with women, even if they are obviously lacking a lot in the looks department. Men are quite mistaken if they think that confidence is all about one’s looks.
In fact, it has very little to nothing to do with a person’s physical qualities. Sexual confidence mostly comes from the inside—it’s being able to understand and determine what’s right for you, be it your looks, clothing or personality. A lot of guys usually have very little confidence in being able to turn on a woman physically, much less impress her with his amazing sexual prowess.
It is important for a man to project an image of a sexually confident guy—the type of guy who knows how to light the fire deep inside a woman. To do this, one must be an expert in the field of giving her an incredible sexual experience. Read on for some very useful tips: Any man who wants women to have strong feelings for him and arouse the sexual emotions inside her must know how to get in touch with his inner animal.
This may sound boggling, but it’s actually pretty simple—just avoid being overly logical, analytical, guarded, and overly educated. When you let your inner animal out it means that one must maintain a relaxed attitude towards sex. Remind yourself that it’s a completely natural part of the relationship. Sure, there’s always the possibility that something bad can happen—simply learn to keep having fun and acting light.
Try to progress from one step to the next easily and with confidence. You’ll find that the teasing and anticipation will surely turn her on and drive her crazy. Turning on a woman and pushing the right buttons is hardly rocket science. Sometimes men just need to be attentive to be able to read her actions correctly.
Men must understand that when a woman says one thing, it usually means something else. When she tries to stop you, chances are you just didn’t get her turned on enough—not that you have to stop doing something altogether. Again, just relax and try to get her even more turned on—explore and figure out what pleases her and what drives her crazy with passion.
Often, sexual confidence is a result of being adept at understanding women and knowing her needs even if she doesn’t give one hint of what it really is. Once you have mastered this, you are well on your way to becoming the best lover she has ever had!
Not all men are born like Casanova, whose amorous charms no woman can resist. It is not unusual for men to experience a sudden lack of sexual confidence around women. In fact, a lot of guys usually feel some form of anxiety because of being unsure of what to do to satisfy their partner in bed.
As a result, they end up projecting a nervous attitude towards sex which seriously affects their performance in the bedroom. However, there are also men who just seem to have such incredible confidence with women, even if they are obviously lacking a lot in the looks department. Men are quite mistaken if they think that confidence is all about one’s looks.
In fact, it has very little to nothing to do with a person’s physical qualities. Sexual confidence mostly comes from the inside—it’s being able to understand and determine what’s right for you, be it your looks, clothing or personality. A lot of guys usually have very little confidence in being able to turn on a woman physically, much less impress her with his amazing sexual prowess.
It is important for a man to project an image of a sexually confident guy—the type of guy who knows how to light the fire deep inside a woman. To do this, one must be an expert in the field of giving her an incredible sexual experience. Read on for some very useful tips: Any man who wants women to have strong feelings for him and arouse the sexual emotions inside her must know how to get in touch with his inner animal.
This may sound boggling, but it’s actually pretty simple—just avoid being overly logical, analytical, guarded, and overly educated. When you let your inner animal out it means that one must maintain a relaxed attitude towards sex. Remind yourself that it’s a completely natural part of the relationship. Sure, there’s always the possibility that something bad can happen—simply learn to keep having fun and acting light.
Try to progress from one step to the next easily and with confidence. You’ll find that the teasing and anticipation will surely turn her on and drive her crazy. Turning on a woman and pushing the right buttons is hardly rocket science. Sometimes men just need to be attentive to be able to read her actions correctly.
Men must understand that when a woman says one thing, it usually means something else. When she tries to stop you, chances are you just didn’t get her turned on enough—not that you have to stop doing something altogether. Again, just relax and try to get her even more turned on—explore and figure out what pleases her and what drives her crazy with passion.
Often, sexual confidence is a result of being adept at understanding women and knowing her needs even if she doesn’t give one hint of what it really is. Once you have mastered this, you are well on your way to becoming the best lover she has ever had!
Is It Important To Discuss Your Sexual History?
by: Ruth Purple
In just about any kind of relationship, honesty is one of the qualities that many people want, hands down. After all, who doesn’t want a truthful, genuine and honest partner? These traits are very important, particularly in an individual’s sexual relationship with another person. While sex for some may only mean fun and games, for a lot of people it is an expression not only of love and passion, but of trust as well.
Only a very few singles today uphold virginity, so it’s no surprise when a person who becomes involved in yet another relationship has already been sexually active before. Thus, it is essential to talk about each other’s sexual history before making your way into the bedroom and into each other’s pants.
Discussing each other’s sexual histories can be quite uncomfortable, but it is one topic that can be very helpful in making or breaking your relationship. Of course there’s no need to have a list of one’s former sexual partners – the point of this discussion is to be fully aware if your partner has a Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI) or has ever been exposed to one.
A sexually active person must always remember that one’s health and safety should always come first, and engaging in sexual activity with another person can always lead to certain health risks that could have been avoided in the first place. It is easy to be blinded and be naive in the initial stages of a relationship, especially if one is “head over heels” with his/her partner.
However, it is important to be somewhat cautious than to have blinding trust with a person early on. A lot of people have paid the price for looking at their partner through a rose-colored glass: everything is absolutely sweet and romantic and new, and it seems that nothing can go wrong.
Unfortunately for some, being completely trusting only paves the way for trouble, since a lot of people have no qualms about lying about their feelings and sexual history just to get someone to bed. Keeping one’s eyes and ears open is not being irrationally suspicious; it is actually a wise approach when coming into a new relationship that could turn out to be not-so-perfect after all.
Young or old, it is always sensible to have safe sex. A lot of people think that having protected sex is only for one-night stands and paid escorts, never for a boyfriend or a girlfriend. This is a usual misconception, and quite a number have learned the value of using a condom or any protective device.
Sure, putting on a condom may be cumbersome, and may lessen the pleasurable sensation during intercourse for a few. But hey, it’s a small price to pay for ensuring your wellbeing and health, right? The distress and anxiety that Sexually Transmitted Infections can cause will definitely overshadow the inconvenience of using a condom or any protection.
Keeping healthy and safe nowadays is essential, especially with the growing cases of AIDS, HIV, STD’s and STI’s. Although more people are becoming vigilant and advocate safe sex, there are still a lot who go on having multiple partners and unprotected sex. It is always sensible to know your partner’s sexual history and to know the truth; at the end of the day, it’s all up to you when it comes to safe sex.
In just about any kind of relationship, honesty is one of the qualities that many people want, hands down. After all, who doesn’t want a truthful, genuine and honest partner? These traits are very important, particularly in an individual’s sexual relationship with another person. While sex for some may only mean fun and games, for a lot of people it is an expression not only of love and passion, but of trust as well.
Only a very few singles today uphold virginity, so it’s no surprise when a person who becomes involved in yet another relationship has already been sexually active before. Thus, it is essential to talk about each other’s sexual history before making your way into the bedroom and into each other’s pants.
Discussing each other’s sexual histories can be quite uncomfortable, but it is one topic that can be very helpful in making or breaking your relationship. Of course there’s no need to have a list of one’s former sexual partners – the point of this discussion is to be fully aware if your partner has a Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI) or has ever been exposed to one.
A sexually active person must always remember that one’s health and safety should always come first, and engaging in sexual activity with another person can always lead to certain health risks that could have been avoided in the first place. It is easy to be blinded and be naive in the initial stages of a relationship, especially if one is “head over heels” with his/her partner.
However, it is important to be somewhat cautious than to have blinding trust with a person early on. A lot of people have paid the price for looking at their partner through a rose-colored glass: everything is absolutely sweet and romantic and new, and it seems that nothing can go wrong.
Unfortunately for some, being completely trusting only paves the way for trouble, since a lot of people have no qualms about lying about their feelings and sexual history just to get someone to bed. Keeping one’s eyes and ears open is not being irrationally suspicious; it is actually a wise approach when coming into a new relationship that could turn out to be not-so-perfect after all.
Young or old, it is always sensible to have safe sex. A lot of people think that having protected sex is only for one-night stands and paid escorts, never for a boyfriend or a girlfriend. This is a usual misconception, and quite a number have learned the value of using a condom or any protective device.
Sure, putting on a condom may be cumbersome, and may lessen the pleasurable sensation during intercourse for a few. But hey, it’s a small price to pay for ensuring your wellbeing and health, right? The distress and anxiety that Sexually Transmitted Infections can cause will definitely overshadow the inconvenience of using a condom or any protection.
Keeping healthy and safe nowadays is essential, especially with the growing cases of AIDS, HIV, STD’s and STI’s. Although more people are becoming vigilant and advocate safe sex, there are still a lot who go on having multiple partners and unprotected sex. It is always sensible to know your partner’s sexual history and to know the truth; at the end of the day, it’s all up to you when it comes to safe sex.
Sex Drive Boosters
by: Ruth Purple
Sex isn’t just something that a lot of us enjoy; it’s also something that could improve health. Yes, sex is actually good for everyone! Studies prove that having sex regularly helps increase immunity from viruses, reduces stress, and also helps protect a man’s prostate gland by emptying the fluids held there.
The release of endorphins, or chemicals that improve mood and ease pain, are also triggered by sex. In short, boosting one’s sex drive does a lot of wonders to his/her partner (and to the relationship) and also effectively improves health. While menopause in women usually affects one’s sex drive and function in one way or the other, it is never a reason for healthy people to be deprived of a pleasurable sex life.
Love and pleasure will always be the same, even if the nature and intensity of the sex changes over time. In revving up a stalled sex drive, neither jumper cables nor little blue pills are required. Try out some of these tips to jump start your engine again: Regular sexual intercourse helps maintain one’s sex drive in a higher notch by increasing the production of testosterone.
This hormone is very important, as it is chiefly responsible for libido in both men and women. So, instead of watching reruns of Friends, turn off the TV, dim the lights—and have sex! Doing it more often will make you want to do it more often, too—and you’ll see that you are more capable of doing it.
Smoking is also a culprit for a lowered sex drive, although not all people are aware of this. Nicotine is a potent vasoconstrictor, and it can clog the blood vessels in the penis just as it clogs the arteries in the heart. What does this mean? Penile erection is brought about by the increased blood flow in the penis; if the blood vessels are clogged, it will be definitely harder to get it up.
The medicines that you regularly take may help you in more ways than one, but some can be party poopers without your knowing it. Have a talk with your doctor and check which medicines might affect your sex drive. Drugs that are used to treat high blood pressure, heart disease, depression and stomach problems can cause erection problems.
Since these drugs are also very important to your health, ask your doctor if you could switch to other brands, or change the dose and timing of your medication. A word to women: do Kegel’s exercises. No, it’s not just a post-partum exercise. Although this is usually recommended to women after pregnancy, or because of a problem with leaking urine, this is also great for strengthening the pubococcygeus muscle.
No, don't bother with the spelling and pronunciation—it’s just a muscle which is very important for orgasm. To do Kegels, identify the muscle you’re using to stop urinating. Practice contracting the muscle (as if you’re stopping yourself from taking a leak) and slowly release it. 20 contractions three times a day enough to keep this muscle in optimum condition.
for men: consider natural supplements, such as gingko biloba. This wondrous herb promotes increased blood flow, getting more blood to the brain and even to the penis. You may want to check with your doctor first, but if you decide to take it on your own, simply follow the instructions on the bottle carefully.
Spend as much time with each other as you can afford. Don't hesitate to reach out and touch, or kiss and hug your partner. Just by increasing physical contact, you are acknowledging your partner’s presence. Often, couples take each other’s presence for granted, and this results to decreased sex. Most importantly, say exactly what you’re thinking—tell your spouse what pleases you, and where you want to be touched.
don’t hold back with compliments. If it was very good for you, tell him/her so.
Sex isn’t just something that a lot of us enjoy; it’s also something that could improve health. Yes, sex is actually good for everyone! Studies prove that having sex regularly helps increase immunity from viruses, reduces stress, and also helps protect a man’s prostate gland by emptying the fluids held there.
The release of endorphins, or chemicals that improve mood and ease pain, are also triggered by sex. In short, boosting one’s sex drive does a lot of wonders to his/her partner (and to the relationship) and also effectively improves health. While menopause in women usually affects one’s sex drive and function in one way or the other, it is never a reason for healthy people to be deprived of a pleasurable sex life.
Love and pleasure will always be the same, even if the nature and intensity of the sex changes over time. In revving up a stalled sex drive, neither jumper cables nor little blue pills are required. Try out some of these tips to jump start your engine again: Regular sexual intercourse helps maintain one’s sex drive in a higher notch by increasing the production of testosterone.
This hormone is very important, as it is chiefly responsible for libido in both men and women. So, instead of watching reruns of Friends, turn off the TV, dim the lights—and have sex! Doing it more often will make you want to do it more often, too—and you’ll see that you are more capable of doing it.
Smoking is also a culprit for a lowered sex drive, although not all people are aware of this. Nicotine is a potent vasoconstrictor, and it can clog the blood vessels in the penis just as it clogs the arteries in the heart. What does this mean? Penile erection is brought about by the increased blood flow in the penis; if the blood vessels are clogged, it will be definitely harder to get it up.
The medicines that you regularly take may help you in more ways than one, but some can be party poopers without your knowing it. Have a talk with your doctor and check which medicines might affect your sex drive. Drugs that are used to treat high blood pressure, heart disease, depression and stomach problems can cause erection problems.
Since these drugs are also very important to your health, ask your doctor if you could switch to other brands, or change the dose and timing of your medication. A word to women: do Kegel’s exercises. No, it’s not just a post-partum exercise. Although this is usually recommended to women after pregnancy, or because of a problem with leaking urine, this is also great for strengthening the pubococcygeus muscle.
No, don't bother with the spelling and pronunciation—it’s just a muscle which is very important for orgasm. To do Kegels, identify the muscle you’re using to stop urinating. Practice contracting the muscle (as if you’re stopping yourself from taking a leak) and slowly release it. 20 contractions three times a day enough to keep this muscle in optimum condition.
for men: consider natural supplements, such as gingko biloba. This wondrous herb promotes increased blood flow, getting more blood to the brain and even to the penis. You may want to check with your doctor first, but if you decide to take it on your own, simply follow the instructions on the bottle carefully.
Spend as much time with each other as you can afford. Don't hesitate to reach out and touch, or kiss and hug your partner. Just by increasing physical contact, you are acknowledging your partner’s presence. Often, couples take each other’s presence for granted, and this results to decreased sex. Most importantly, say exactly what you’re thinking—tell your spouse what pleases you, and where you want to be touched.
don’t hold back with compliments. If it was very good for you, tell him/her so.
Kamis, 02 Februari 2012
An Expensive Lesson on Sexual Harassment For One Small Business
by: Dianne Shaddock
Businesses should take note from the hard lesson learned from one Las Vegas business about how sexual harassment of employees should not be tolerated in the workplace.
The following article was published on the KNXT News Radio website, (KNXT.com) which highlighted a recent sexual harassment ruling against a local car dealership:
Car Dealership Settles Sexual Harassment Case
A now-closed Las Vegas car dealership has agreed to pay 110-thousand dollars to settle a federal sexual harassment case. According to a news release, the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission charged Bill Heard Chevrolet managers and employees with making “crude remarks” about the bodies of nine car saleswomen, solicited them for dates or sexual favors, and “grabbed at a woman employee’s breasts.” The EEOC also claims the saleswomen who complained were disciplined, demoted or fired. Bill Heard Chevrolet closed its dealership on Decatur Boulevard in 2008 and its parent company filed for bankruptcy.
Supervisors who are presented with accusations of sexual harassment should promptly investigate accusations. If it is found that the accusation is valid, it is important to deal swiftly with the offending employee(s).
All businesses, no matter how small should have a policy that clearly outlines the company’s position on sexual harassment, including how victims of harassment can report any concerns. All staff should be made aware that there is a zero tolerance level for harassment of any kind in the work place and what the consequences are for employees found to be in violation of your policy.
Consult with an employment lawyer for assistance with developing a policy for your company.
Businesses should take note from the hard lesson learned from one Las Vegas business about how sexual harassment of employees should not be tolerated in the workplace.
The following article was published on the KNXT News Radio website, (KNXT.com) which highlighted a recent sexual harassment ruling against a local car dealership:
Car Dealership Settles Sexual Harassment Case
A now-closed Las Vegas car dealership has agreed to pay 110-thousand dollars to settle a federal sexual harassment case. According to a news release, the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission charged Bill Heard Chevrolet managers and employees with making “crude remarks” about the bodies of nine car saleswomen, solicited them for dates or sexual favors, and “grabbed at a woman employee’s breasts.” The EEOC also claims the saleswomen who complained were disciplined, demoted or fired. Bill Heard Chevrolet closed its dealership on Decatur Boulevard in 2008 and its parent company filed for bankruptcy.
Supervisors who are presented with accusations of sexual harassment should promptly investigate accusations. If it is found that the accusation is valid, it is important to deal swiftly with the offending employee(s).
All businesses, no matter how small should have a policy that clearly outlines the company’s position on sexual harassment, including how victims of harassment can report any concerns. All staff should be made aware that there is a zero tolerance level for harassment of any kind in the work place and what the consequences are for employees found to be in violation of your policy.
Consult with an employment lawyer for assistance with developing a policy for your company.
Sex, Sin and Salvation
by: Rev. David B. Smith
The scribes and the Pharisees brought a woman who had been caught in adultery, and placing her in the midst they said to him, "Teacher, this woman has been caught in the act of adultery. Now in the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. So what do you say?" This they said to test him that they might have some charge to bring against him. Jesus bent down and wrote with his finger on the ground. And as they continued to ask him, he stood up and said to them, "Let him who is without sin among you be the first to throw a stone at her." And once more he bent down and wrote on the ground. But when they heard it, they went away one by one, beginning with the older ones, and Jesus was left alone with the woman standing before him. Jesus stood up and said to her, "Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?" She said, "No one, Lord." And Jesus said, "Neither do I condemn you; go, and from now on sin no more."
The Scribes and the Pharisees - the leading religious men in the community - brought before Jesus a woman who, we are told, had been caught in the very act of adultery, and they asked Jesus what they should do with her. “Now in the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. So what do you say?"
And Jesus, we know, dealt tenderly with the woman, and turned the tables once again on His accusers, saying, “Let him who is without sin amongst you cast the first stone”. And the accusers left, and Jesus and the woman were left alone, and Jesus said, “is no one left to condemn you? I don’t condemn you either. Go and sin no more!”
And I have never met anyone who does not love this passage, and I have never heard anyone suggest that Jesus did the wrong thing with this woman - that He should have been harsher with her - and yet at the same time I have never heard anyone ever suggest that we should be following Jesus’ example here in terms of the way we deal with people who break the law!
Now I appreciate, of course, that this is not a parable with a hidden message in it or any sort of story that is supposed to have a straightforward ‘moral’ to it. Even so, the behavior of Jesus here has implications, surely, for the way in which we pass judgment (or perhaps refuse to pass judgment) on people who have broken the law.
Personally, I love this story, as I think we all do, and I think we all feel an immediate sympathy for the woman in this story. There she is - being dragged around roughly by this group of self-righteous men - bruised and disheveled no doubt.
And we sense her humiliation. And we sense her isolation in this ordeal. And we wonder where her lover is. And we wonder whether she had in fact been set up (by a cruel and domineering husband perhaps). We identify with this woman in her pain and in her vulnerability, just as we then rest with her in the healing balm of Jesus’ words, “I don’t condemn you either”!
And yet of course we do not know the full story. Indeed, this woman may have been far more conniving and depraved than we generally imagine.
And I find myself wondering whether Jesus would have reacted in exactly the same way had it been the man who had been dragged before Him? And I wonder whether Jesus would have had the same attitude had the sentence been a prison term rather than stoning. And would Jesus have said the same thing if the crime had not been adultery but pedophilia (for example).
Would Jesus have said, “I don’t condemn you either mate. Go, and don’t fiddle with children any more … please.”
There comes a point where mercy starts to look like weakness, and where the gracious offer of forgiveness starts to look more like a license to engage in abuse and depravity.
I have a friend who I mentioned in a sermon a couple of weeks ago who is still seeking justice in the case of the murder of his daughter. An unlicensed driver came flying through a red light and practically destroyed the car and the body of this poor young girl, and part of the ongoing pain for the family - for the father and mother and surviving sisters and brother - has been that the courts just don’t seem to want to punish the person responsible!
I listened to a letter from the dead girl’s younger sister being read out on a radio show this week, and in it she asked pleadingly when the courts were going to take this sort of crime seriously. For if the courts are reluctant to mete out serious punishment for the reckless behavior of unlicensed drivers it can only indicate that our community does not take such crimes, and the tragic deaths that they cause, seriously.
And where do we find Jesus in all that pain? ...
You see, it’s a lot easier in cases like this to be Islamic or a Jew, because in the case of Judaism and Islam it’s all a matter of law!
Whether it’s the law of the Torah or the law of the Koran, the beauty about being a good Jew or a good Muslim is that it’s all a straightforward matter of knowing what the rules are and following them. Every situation in life has a law, and the law is as applicable to the individual as it is to the community as a whole. Every law has an appropriate punishment set for those who fail to keep it, and so if you break the law you can expect to endure the punishment, and the punishment for adultery was very straightforward - stoning.
You stone both lovers if you can catch them or, in the case where you only apprehend one of the offenders, you stone that one now and you keep a few rocks in your pockets for later in case you find the other one. It’s rough justice for sure, but surely it is better than no justice at all!
Of course, if it were all so straightforward, it does raise the question of why the religious leaders ever brought the woman to Jesus in the first place. If the crime and punishment were all so straightforward, why did they ask Jesus for His opinion as to what they should do?
I think the answer to that lies in the fact that the local Jewish authorities had lost their right to carry out capital punishment on persons they deemed worthy of execution. Presumably this is the same reason why when, later on, they wanted to kill Jesus, they had to involve Pilate, the Roman governor.
They had lost the right to put people to death by their own authority. The question therefore of whether or not they should stone the woman was therefore a question of whether they should by abiding by the law of God or by the law of the land.
We are told, of course, that the whole point of this encounter was that this woman’s accusers were trying to trick Jesus, and indeed it seems that the trick was almost identical to the one where they asked Jesus about whether or not they should pay taxes to Caesar (Matthew 22).
You will remember on that occasion that they thought they had Jesus trapped because if he said that they should pay taxes that he would be seen as a traitor to His own people, but if He told them not to pay taxes He would have been guilty of insurrection before the Romans!
Likewise here if he tells them that they should not stone the woman then He seems to be disregarding the law of God, but if He tells them that they should stone her He is over-ruling the decision made by Rome.
When seen in this light, it becomes obvious that sympathy for the woman was not expected to play any part in this encounter. This was a legal issue. They were trying to ensnare Jesus in a legal dilemma whereby they were forcing Him to choose between the law of God and the law of men. I don’t think anyone was expecting Him to put aside all law and choose the woman!
Knowing Jesus’ quick mind, might we not have expected Him at this point to answer His questioners in a similar way to the way He did to the taxation question? 'Whose picture is seen on the front of the law court? Caesar’s? Then render unto Caesar the cases that fall under the jurisdiction of Caesar and you stick to the moral/spiritual laws that are the more obviously personal religious issues anyway!'
It’s interesting, isn’t it, that Jesus just doesn’t start playing those mind games with these religious leaders at all, presumably because in this case a woman’s life is at stake. He doesn’t give them a witty or clever answer. He doesn’t respond with, “let me tell you a story …” as He does in so many other places. Indeed He doesn’t seem to want to engage with these men at all at first. We’re told that He spends most of His time in this encounter looking at the ground and doodling in the dust! He only makes the one statement, “let him amongst you who has no sin cast the first stone.”
This is a beautiful story, I feel, and yet I appreciate that it raises a lot of difficult questions:
* What sort of model is this that Jesus leaves us?
* Is it really appropriate to ask our judges that they be free from sin before they pass judgment on anybody else?
* Does “I don’t condemn you either” really have any place in a system of government
* Is Jesus really concerned about justice at all?
There are lots of questions raised by this encounter, and I don’t pretend to have the answers. There is though one thing that comes through loud and clear in this story and is entirely unambiguous and it is this: that Jesus is one who forgives. “I don’t condemn you“, says Jesus. “I don’t condemn you either”
Why not? Because the woman wasn’t as bad as everybody made out? No! No doubt she was full of problems but “I don’t condemn you either!”
Was it because there were lots of mitigating circumstances, such that this woman couldn’t really be blamed because she was stuck in a bad marriage with a violent and domineering husband perhaps? Maybe that was the case and maybe not. Either way, “I don’t condemn you either!”
Was it because it was her male partner who was really to blame - the guy who got away, the guy who seduced her in the first place? Maybe and maybe not, but I get the feeling that He who would not condemn the woman would have said to her partner too, if He had met him, “I don’t condemn you either.”
Jesus forgives. It is His very nature to forgive! What we do with that on a legal and political level I do not know, but this I know: that Jesus forgives.
You know, one of the interesting things I discovered in my research on this passage is that it seems to have been a relatively late addition to the Gospel of John! It seems that some of the earliest manuscripts of the Gospel did not have this story included in them, and yet the scholars seem unanimous in recognizing that this was in itself a very ancient story from the life of Jesus.
The only obvious explanation for this was that early church, as it emerged from being a sect within Judaism and struggled with the whole abandonment of the rule of law in the Christian life, found this story from the life of Jesus to be just a little too uncomfortable to deal with at first. It took time before they were able to fully embrace this Jesus!
For it is an uncomfortable story. It is easier, in so many ways, to deal with a God who relates to us only through rules and laws and regulations. And yet those of us who know the depth of our own human frailty and sinfulness recognize that this, in the end, is the only God we will ever be able to deal with. “I don’t condemn, I don’t condemn, I don’t condemn you either”.
The scribes and the Pharisees brought a woman who had been caught in adultery, and placing her in the midst they said to him, "Teacher, this woman has been caught in the act of adultery. Now in the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. So what do you say?" This they said to test him that they might have some charge to bring against him. Jesus bent down and wrote with his finger on the ground. And as they continued to ask him, he stood up and said to them, "Let him who is without sin among you be the first to throw a stone at her." And once more he bent down and wrote on the ground. But when they heard it, they went away one by one, beginning with the older ones, and Jesus was left alone with the woman standing before him. Jesus stood up and said to her, "Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?" She said, "No one, Lord." And Jesus said, "Neither do I condemn you; go, and from now on sin no more."
The Scribes and the Pharisees - the leading religious men in the community - brought before Jesus a woman who, we are told, had been caught in the very act of adultery, and they asked Jesus what they should do with her. “Now in the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. So what do you say?"
And Jesus, we know, dealt tenderly with the woman, and turned the tables once again on His accusers, saying, “Let him who is without sin amongst you cast the first stone”. And the accusers left, and Jesus and the woman were left alone, and Jesus said, “is no one left to condemn you? I don’t condemn you either. Go and sin no more!”
And I have never met anyone who does not love this passage, and I have never heard anyone suggest that Jesus did the wrong thing with this woman - that He should have been harsher with her - and yet at the same time I have never heard anyone ever suggest that we should be following Jesus’ example here in terms of the way we deal with people who break the law!
Now I appreciate, of course, that this is not a parable with a hidden message in it or any sort of story that is supposed to have a straightforward ‘moral’ to it. Even so, the behavior of Jesus here has implications, surely, for the way in which we pass judgment (or perhaps refuse to pass judgment) on people who have broken the law.
Personally, I love this story, as I think we all do, and I think we all feel an immediate sympathy for the woman in this story. There she is - being dragged around roughly by this group of self-righteous men - bruised and disheveled no doubt.
And we sense her humiliation. And we sense her isolation in this ordeal. And we wonder where her lover is. And we wonder whether she had in fact been set up (by a cruel and domineering husband perhaps). We identify with this woman in her pain and in her vulnerability, just as we then rest with her in the healing balm of Jesus’ words, “I don’t condemn you either”!
And yet of course we do not know the full story. Indeed, this woman may have been far more conniving and depraved than we generally imagine.
And I find myself wondering whether Jesus would have reacted in exactly the same way had it been the man who had been dragged before Him? And I wonder whether Jesus would have had the same attitude had the sentence been a prison term rather than stoning. And would Jesus have said the same thing if the crime had not been adultery but pedophilia (for example).
Would Jesus have said, “I don’t condemn you either mate. Go, and don’t fiddle with children any more … please.”
There comes a point where mercy starts to look like weakness, and where the gracious offer of forgiveness starts to look more like a license to engage in abuse and depravity.
I have a friend who I mentioned in a sermon a couple of weeks ago who is still seeking justice in the case of the murder of his daughter. An unlicensed driver came flying through a red light and practically destroyed the car and the body of this poor young girl, and part of the ongoing pain for the family - for the father and mother and surviving sisters and brother - has been that the courts just don’t seem to want to punish the person responsible!
I listened to a letter from the dead girl’s younger sister being read out on a radio show this week, and in it she asked pleadingly when the courts were going to take this sort of crime seriously. For if the courts are reluctant to mete out serious punishment for the reckless behavior of unlicensed drivers it can only indicate that our community does not take such crimes, and the tragic deaths that they cause, seriously.
And where do we find Jesus in all that pain? ...
You see, it’s a lot easier in cases like this to be Islamic or a Jew, because in the case of Judaism and Islam it’s all a matter of law!
Whether it’s the law of the Torah or the law of the Koran, the beauty about being a good Jew or a good Muslim is that it’s all a straightforward matter of knowing what the rules are and following them. Every situation in life has a law, and the law is as applicable to the individual as it is to the community as a whole. Every law has an appropriate punishment set for those who fail to keep it, and so if you break the law you can expect to endure the punishment, and the punishment for adultery was very straightforward - stoning.
You stone both lovers if you can catch them or, in the case where you only apprehend one of the offenders, you stone that one now and you keep a few rocks in your pockets for later in case you find the other one. It’s rough justice for sure, but surely it is better than no justice at all!
Of course, if it were all so straightforward, it does raise the question of why the religious leaders ever brought the woman to Jesus in the first place. If the crime and punishment were all so straightforward, why did they ask Jesus for His opinion as to what they should do?
I think the answer to that lies in the fact that the local Jewish authorities had lost their right to carry out capital punishment on persons they deemed worthy of execution. Presumably this is the same reason why when, later on, they wanted to kill Jesus, they had to involve Pilate, the Roman governor.
They had lost the right to put people to death by their own authority. The question therefore of whether or not they should stone the woman was therefore a question of whether they should by abiding by the law of God or by the law of the land.
We are told, of course, that the whole point of this encounter was that this woman’s accusers were trying to trick Jesus, and indeed it seems that the trick was almost identical to the one where they asked Jesus about whether or not they should pay taxes to Caesar (Matthew 22).
You will remember on that occasion that they thought they had Jesus trapped because if he said that they should pay taxes that he would be seen as a traitor to His own people, but if He told them not to pay taxes He would have been guilty of insurrection before the Romans!
Likewise here if he tells them that they should not stone the woman then He seems to be disregarding the law of God, but if He tells them that they should stone her He is over-ruling the decision made by Rome.
When seen in this light, it becomes obvious that sympathy for the woman was not expected to play any part in this encounter. This was a legal issue. They were trying to ensnare Jesus in a legal dilemma whereby they were forcing Him to choose between the law of God and the law of men. I don’t think anyone was expecting Him to put aside all law and choose the woman!
Knowing Jesus’ quick mind, might we not have expected Him at this point to answer His questioners in a similar way to the way He did to the taxation question? 'Whose picture is seen on the front of the law court? Caesar’s? Then render unto Caesar the cases that fall under the jurisdiction of Caesar and you stick to the moral/spiritual laws that are the more obviously personal religious issues anyway!'
It’s interesting, isn’t it, that Jesus just doesn’t start playing those mind games with these religious leaders at all, presumably because in this case a woman’s life is at stake. He doesn’t give them a witty or clever answer. He doesn’t respond with, “let me tell you a story …” as He does in so many other places. Indeed He doesn’t seem to want to engage with these men at all at first. We’re told that He spends most of His time in this encounter looking at the ground and doodling in the dust! He only makes the one statement, “let him amongst you who has no sin cast the first stone.”
This is a beautiful story, I feel, and yet I appreciate that it raises a lot of difficult questions:
* What sort of model is this that Jesus leaves us?
* Is it really appropriate to ask our judges that they be free from sin before they pass judgment on anybody else?
* Does “I don’t condemn you either” really have any place in a system of government
* Is Jesus really concerned about justice at all?
There are lots of questions raised by this encounter, and I don’t pretend to have the answers. There is though one thing that comes through loud and clear in this story and is entirely unambiguous and it is this: that Jesus is one who forgives. “I don’t condemn you“, says Jesus. “I don’t condemn you either”
Why not? Because the woman wasn’t as bad as everybody made out? No! No doubt she was full of problems but “I don’t condemn you either!”
Was it because there were lots of mitigating circumstances, such that this woman couldn’t really be blamed because she was stuck in a bad marriage with a violent and domineering husband perhaps? Maybe that was the case and maybe not. Either way, “I don’t condemn you either!”
Was it because it was her male partner who was really to blame - the guy who got away, the guy who seduced her in the first place? Maybe and maybe not, but I get the feeling that He who would not condemn the woman would have said to her partner too, if He had met him, “I don’t condemn you either.”
Jesus forgives. It is His very nature to forgive! What we do with that on a legal and political level I do not know, but this I know: that Jesus forgives.
You know, one of the interesting things I discovered in my research on this passage is that it seems to have been a relatively late addition to the Gospel of John! It seems that some of the earliest manuscripts of the Gospel did not have this story included in them, and yet the scholars seem unanimous in recognizing that this was in itself a very ancient story from the life of Jesus.
The only obvious explanation for this was that early church, as it emerged from being a sect within Judaism and struggled with the whole abandonment of the rule of law in the Christian life, found this story from the life of Jesus to be just a little too uncomfortable to deal with at first. It took time before they were able to fully embrace this Jesus!
For it is an uncomfortable story. It is easier, in so many ways, to deal with a God who relates to us only through rules and laws and regulations. And yet those of us who know the depth of our own human frailty and sinfulness recognize that this, in the end, is the only God we will ever be able to deal with. “I don’t condemn, I don’t condemn, I don’t condemn you either”.
Selasa, 31 Januari 2012
Aphrodisiacs: For A More Satisfying Sex Life
by: Ruth Purple
Sex is essential to a marriage or any other romantic relationship. Without it, no matter how much you love each other, you will feel there’s something missing. Sex is an expression of your love and it releases tension and makes you feel good afterwards. But no matter how much you love to have sex, it wanes.
Factors that cause sex life to decrease can be psychological or it can be physiological. Men from different times and era would do anything to prolong their upbeat cravings for sex, hence the discovery of aphrodisiacs. Aphrodisiacs are substances- like food, tea or herbal products, drug or scents believed to enhance libido or sexual desires.
Aphrodisiacs came from the name of Aphrodite, the Greek- Goddess of love and beauty. To further elaborate, aphrodisiacs can improve and increase sexual health and awareness, can loosen your sexual inhibitions, makes sexual organs more sensitive, can increase stamina, prevents impotence or frigidity, and perks up the gonads and other glands related to sex activity and helps in production of semen.
There are two kinds or classification of aphrodisiacs. The biochemical aphrodisiacs and the psychophysical. The biochemical are the ones that directly affect the sex organs and the psychophysical are the ones which owes their effectiveness to the beliefs of the ancient people. Herbal aphrodisiacs are usually the ones being used in ancient people to enhance their sex life.
Some example of it is Alstonia, also known as Dita, Devil’s tree or Bitter Bark. It can be found in Asia, specifically India and Philippines. Dita tree is thought to retain erection and delays ejaculation. The seed of the Dita tree is said to have powerful alkaloids and chlorogenine substances.
These two agents are said to be responsible for the sexual effect of Dita Tree. Another is Betel Nut, which is said to put you in the mood for love making. Betel nut grows everywhere in the South Pacific. Betel nut has Arcoline oil, a mild nervous system stimulant; the substance can heighten your desires to open up those legs every time your partner is around.
And the famous herbal aphrodisiac, the Ginseng, as we all know Ginseng gives the stamina of a horse and restores the waning vitality caused by aging. Ginseng is also known as the root of life, manroot or redberry. Aside from herbal aphrodisiacs, there are also foods which enhance and increase intercourse activities.
Some of these are vegetables which contains androstone like celery. Some spices are also medically proven to boost libido like garlic, onion, basil, ginger and licorice. And of course, it’s a common knowledge chocolates are perfect aphrodisiacs for women especially if it is handed with a sparkling diamond ring. Aphrodisiacs are just enhancements; you have to take care of yourself if you want to enjoy sex longer.
That means exercise and proper diet-discipline. Keep in mind, the most essential organ in making love is not the one between the legs, it’s what’s inside your head. Aphrodisiacs are futile if you’re having sex for sex alone. Sex is more than just exchanging of bodily fluids, there has to be meeting of the minds.
Sex is essential to a marriage or any other romantic relationship. Without it, no matter how much you love each other, you will feel there’s something missing. Sex is an expression of your love and it releases tension and makes you feel good afterwards. But no matter how much you love to have sex, it wanes.
Factors that cause sex life to decrease can be psychological or it can be physiological. Men from different times and era would do anything to prolong their upbeat cravings for sex, hence the discovery of aphrodisiacs. Aphrodisiacs are substances- like food, tea or herbal products, drug or scents believed to enhance libido or sexual desires.
Aphrodisiacs came from the name of Aphrodite, the Greek- Goddess of love and beauty. To further elaborate, aphrodisiacs can improve and increase sexual health and awareness, can loosen your sexual inhibitions, makes sexual organs more sensitive, can increase stamina, prevents impotence or frigidity, and perks up the gonads and other glands related to sex activity and helps in production of semen.
There are two kinds or classification of aphrodisiacs. The biochemical aphrodisiacs and the psychophysical. The biochemical are the ones that directly affect the sex organs and the psychophysical are the ones which owes their effectiveness to the beliefs of the ancient people. Herbal aphrodisiacs are usually the ones being used in ancient people to enhance their sex life.
Some example of it is Alstonia, also known as Dita, Devil’s tree or Bitter Bark. It can be found in Asia, specifically India and Philippines. Dita tree is thought to retain erection and delays ejaculation. The seed of the Dita tree is said to have powerful alkaloids and chlorogenine substances.
These two agents are said to be responsible for the sexual effect of Dita Tree. Another is Betel Nut, which is said to put you in the mood for love making. Betel nut grows everywhere in the South Pacific. Betel nut has Arcoline oil, a mild nervous system stimulant; the substance can heighten your desires to open up those legs every time your partner is around.
And the famous herbal aphrodisiac, the Ginseng, as we all know Ginseng gives the stamina of a horse and restores the waning vitality caused by aging. Ginseng is also known as the root of life, manroot or redberry. Aside from herbal aphrodisiacs, there are also foods which enhance and increase intercourse activities.
Some of these are vegetables which contains androstone like celery. Some spices are also medically proven to boost libido like garlic, onion, basil, ginger and licorice. And of course, it’s a common knowledge chocolates are perfect aphrodisiacs for women especially if it is handed with a sparkling diamond ring. Aphrodisiacs are just enhancements; you have to take care of yourself if you want to enjoy sex longer.
That means exercise and proper diet-discipline. Keep in mind, the most essential organ in making love is not the one between the legs, it’s what’s inside your head. Aphrodisiacs are futile if you’re having sex for sex alone. Sex is more than just exchanging of bodily fluids, there has to be meeting of the minds.
Brief History of Sex Abuse
by: Alexandra Reed
Sexual abuse allegations in the Roman Catholic Diocese of Bridgeport, Connecticut, are typical of many U.S. dioceses, in that the accusations go back several decades.
In 1964, a teenage student at Sacred Heart University accused Father Laurence Brett, a spiritual director at the University, of performing oral sex on him and biting his penis to prevent him from ejaculating.
Bishop Walter Curtis discussed the situation with the Vatican representative in Washington, D.C., and decided not to suspend Brett but to send him out of state. Diocese officials were told that "hepatitis was to be feigned" as an excuse for Brett's absence. In seeming exile, Brett was supported financially by the Bridgeport Diocese and was permitted to perform priestly functions. Brett held a variety of ecclesiastical positions in New Mexico, California, and Maryland for the next thirty years, becoming a writer and television minister. In 1991, Bishop Edward M. Egan investigated Brett's case and allowed him to remain in the ministry. When more accusations against Brett surfaced, Egan suspended his priestly faculties.
This ugly incident was the first of many in a history of sexual abuse allegations and cover up spanning nearly a half-century. Two years later, church officials began receiving abuse complaints about Rev. Raymond Pcolka since his first assignment, in 1966, at St. Benedict's Parish in Stamford. He was transferred several times over the years and sent to the Institute of Living for evaluation at least twice. Egan eventually suspended Pcolka in 1992, but continued to pay his salary, provide health benefits and cover the cost of his attorney's fees for several years. In addition, Egan did not make any effort to remove Pcolka from the Priesthood, saying he didn't have sufficient evidence that Pcolka had abused anyone. In 1994, Pcolka exercised his Fifth Amendment privilege more than 100 times when questioned about abuse allegations involving more than a dozen victims over several decades.
New York Cardinal Edward M. Egan, while serving as Bishop of the Bridgeport Roman Catholic Diocese from 1988 to 2000, allowed several priests facing multiple accusations of sexual abuse to continue working for years.
In 1991, Egan appointed Rev. Charles Carr parochial vicar of Saint Andrew Parish in Bridgeport, where he was allowed to minister to children, despite ongoing complaints about pedophilia that had forced Carr into treatment at Hartford's Institute for Living for evaluation at least twice. When the first lawsuit against the Diocese in connection to Carr was served in 1995, Egan suspended Carr and placed him on an indefinite leave of absence.
Former Bridgeport Bishop Walter Curtis, who ran the Diocese for 27 years before Egan, testified in 1995 that the Diocese deliberately shuffled pedophile priests among parishes to give them a "fresh start," and admitted destroying records of complaints against some priests. Curtis also said he didn't believe pedophilia was a permanent condition.
Sexual abuse allegations in the Roman Catholic Diocese of Bridgeport, Connecticut, are typical of many U.S. dioceses, in that the accusations go back several decades.
In 1964, a teenage student at Sacred Heart University accused Father Laurence Brett, a spiritual director at the University, of performing oral sex on him and biting his penis to prevent him from ejaculating.
Bishop Walter Curtis discussed the situation with the Vatican representative in Washington, D.C., and decided not to suspend Brett but to send him out of state. Diocese officials were told that "hepatitis was to be feigned" as an excuse for Brett's absence. In seeming exile, Brett was supported financially by the Bridgeport Diocese and was permitted to perform priestly functions. Brett held a variety of ecclesiastical positions in New Mexico, California, and Maryland for the next thirty years, becoming a writer and television minister. In 1991, Bishop Edward M. Egan investigated Brett's case and allowed him to remain in the ministry. When more accusations against Brett surfaced, Egan suspended his priestly faculties.
This ugly incident was the first of many in a history of sexual abuse allegations and cover up spanning nearly a half-century. Two years later, church officials began receiving abuse complaints about Rev. Raymond Pcolka since his first assignment, in 1966, at St. Benedict's Parish in Stamford. He was transferred several times over the years and sent to the Institute of Living for evaluation at least twice. Egan eventually suspended Pcolka in 1992, but continued to pay his salary, provide health benefits and cover the cost of his attorney's fees for several years. In addition, Egan did not make any effort to remove Pcolka from the Priesthood, saying he didn't have sufficient evidence that Pcolka had abused anyone. In 1994, Pcolka exercised his Fifth Amendment privilege more than 100 times when questioned about abuse allegations involving more than a dozen victims over several decades.
New York Cardinal Edward M. Egan, while serving as Bishop of the Bridgeport Roman Catholic Diocese from 1988 to 2000, allowed several priests facing multiple accusations of sexual abuse to continue working for years.
In 1991, Egan appointed Rev. Charles Carr parochial vicar of Saint Andrew Parish in Bridgeport, where he was allowed to minister to children, despite ongoing complaints about pedophilia that had forced Carr into treatment at Hartford's Institute for Living for evaluation at least twice. When the first lawsuit against the Diocese in connection to Carr was served in 1995, Egan suspended Carr and placed him on an indefinite leave of absence.
Former Bridgeport Bishop Walter Curtis, who ran the Diocese for 27 years before Egan, testified in 1995 that the Diocese deliberately shuffled pedophile priests among parishes to give them a "fresh start," and admitted destroying records of complaints against some priests. Curtis also said he didn't believe pedophilia was a permanent condition.
Funny and Sexy Electrohouse Video From Grum
by: Matt Turner
Have you seen the new electrohouse nudisco music video from Grum? It's called “I Can't Shake This Feeling” and the arrival of Grum is already causing hyperbolic excitement amidst the house / electro / disco community in anticipation of his forthcoming full length release “Heartbeats” which you can get more information on at his official website www.heart-beats.co.uk
You'll definitely want to check out the new video to Grum's “I can't Shake This Feeling” on youtube as part of the build up for the offical album launch. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2t0Ef1Fs2Hw
“I Can't Shake This Feeling” is a great feel good club track with impecable production continuing the renewal of house music with 80's style electro vibes – incorporating bold synthesized stabs and drum sounds and all round streamlined, polished and synthetic sonic aesthetic. It seems in injecting these past influence
Grum is part of the huge movement of electro, synth disco and funky electrohouse that is enjoying a massive resurgence at the beginning of the new decade, and Grum comes from the stable of pedigree that includes Mylo who was the producer de jour of the electrohouse movement as it bubbled away in the middle of the first decade of the 21st century when Mylo's “Drop The Pressure” became a land mark track.
Funky and and disco influenced soulful deep house came to prominence in the mid to late 90's with the arrival of the french house sound championed by acts such as Daft Punk, and saw hits such as “Music Sounds Better With You” by Stardust top the charts internationally, to be followed by more funky house classics such as “Lady” and “Groovejet (If This Ain't Love)” by Spiller which blew the sound up worldwide.
It was perhaps at this point that the house sound which was traditionally soulful and funky lost it's edge as it became more mainstream, while underground audiences sought something edgier, giving rise to the Electroclash movement which saw the overproduced, overthough house sound eschewed in favour of a punkier aesthetic driven by the do-it-yourself ethos of a new type of laptop based producers working out of their bedroom's – just like Grum. Fischerspooner was a key Electroclash act that rose to prominence which has been name checked by Grum as an influence in renewing and bringing previously overlooked 80's themes and techniques into the 21st century with deft precision.
It was then to be huge hits such as Benny Bennassi's “Satisfaction” Fedde Le Grande's “Put Your Hands Up For Detroit” Eric Prydez's reworking of 8o's classic “Call On Me” and of course Mylo's “Drop The Pressure” that cemented the return of house music to mainstream audiences under a new guise: That of electrohouse.
But what has been fascinating has been the embrace of Hip Hop artists who are now using more electrohouse influenced productions on chart topping hits that has made electrohouse bigger and more influential than ever and the signature sound of brash keyboard stabs and synthetic drum sounds can be heard on many of the biggest hits in the top 40 now. The punters are really going for Grum's new single “I Can't Shake This Feeling” - here's what they're saying around the blogs:“He may reside in Leeds but Grum certainly ain’t grim - he’s super, super!”
“New Grum original track. It's a doozy. The music video is fantastic as well, combining 4 of mans favourite things: Grum, babes, food, n humour.”
“Damn Grum's got it right. A video based around tasty girls scarfing piles of food. wow. Delicious.”
“EARGASM! I kid you not . . . it has got a really 80s vibe to it. In any case, its a superb kind of funk. You can also expect Grum's usual killer beats mixed in. Can't wait to hear more. As for the video, well, you decide. One of the funniest stuff I've seen this week.”
“At first I was like, “Cmon, another slow motion video? And even more, a slow motion video of girls and food.” But no, I was wrong. There is more to this video that more frames per second. Be sure to check out this one for some good times.”
Apparently Grum was named for being a “grumpy bastard” in his younger days, which is somehwhat bemusing given the feel good factor behind is groovy electro house music. The song in particular is reminiscent of many 80's pop classics with a soaring female vocal that sounds a little like Laura Brannigan who had hits with "Gloria" and "Self Control"
The video is a bold mix of the sexual and erotic, with the disturbing and somewhat gruesome footageof sexy girls stuffing their faces with all types of food laid out for them by a sleazy disco style director.But it also tells a humourous narrative of a father seeing his daughter portrayed in one of these videos as he sets out to rescue her from iniquity.The video closes as the father bursts into the studio reproaching the sleazy director with the humourous slogan “We've got plenty of spaghetti!”
I myself had never heard of “Feeder” videos but apparently this is an established genre in adult movies. There has been thematic comparisons with the video for Simian Mobile Disco's “Hustler” which also features attractive girls, but from Benny Benassi's “Satisfaction” to Eric Prydez “Call On Me” I think you can safely say that within the genre there is an established tradition of combining gorgeous girls with somewhat bizarre and abstract items and contexts.Whatever the case be sure to check out this electrohouse music video from Grum for yourself: “I Can't Shake This Feeling”! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2t0Ef1Fs2Hw
Have you seen the new electrohouse nudisco music video from Grum? It's called “I Can't Shake This Feeling” and the arrival of Grum is already causing hyperbolic excitement amidst the house / electro / disco community in anticipation of his forthcoming full length release “Heartbeats” which you can get more information on at his official website www.heart-beats.co.uk
You'll definitely want to check out the new video to Grum's “I can't Shake This Feeling” on youtube as part of the build up for the offical album launch. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2t0Ef1Fs2Hw
“I Can't Shake This Feeling” is a great feel good club track with impecable production continuing the renewal of house music with 80's style electro vibes – incorporating bold synthesized stabs and drum sounds and all round streamlined, polished and synthetic sonic aesthetic. It seems in injecting these past influence
Grum is part of the huge movement of electro, synth disco and funky electrohouse that is enjoying a massive resurgence at the beginning of the new decade, and Grum comes from the stable of pedigree that includes Mylo who was the producer de jour of the electrohouse movement as it bubbled away in the middle of the first decade of the 21st century when Mylo's “Drop The Pressure” became a land mark track.
Funky and and disco influenced soulful deep house came to prominence in the mid to late 90's with the arrival of the french house sound championed by acts such as Daft Punk, and saw hits such as “Music Sounds Better With You” by Stardust top the charts internationally, to be followed by more funky house classics such as “Lady” and “Groovejet (If This Ain't Love)” by Spiller which blew the sound up worldwide.
It was perhaps at this point that the house sound which was traditionally soulful and funky lost it's edge as it became more mainstream, while underground audiences sought something edgier, giving rise to the Electroclash movement which saw the overproduced, overthough house sound eschewed in favour of a punkier aesthetic driven by the do-it-yourself ethos of a new type of laptop based producers working out of their bedroom's – just like Grum. Fischerspooner was a key Electroclash act that rose to prominence which has been name checked by Grum as an influence in renewing and bringing previously overlooked 80's themes and techniques into the 21st century with deft precision.
It was then to be huge hits such as Benny Bennassi's “Satisfaction” Fedde Le Grande's “Put Your Hands Up For Detroit” Eric Prydez's reworking of 8o's classic “Call On Me” and of course Mylo's “Drop The Pressure” that cemented the return of house music to mainstream audiences under a new guise: That of electrohouse.
But what has been fascinating has been the embrace of Hip Hop artists who are now using more electrohouse influenced productions on chart topping hits that has made electrohouse bigger and more influential than ever and the signature sound of brash keyboard stabs and synthetic drum sounds can be heard on many of the biggest hits in the top 40 now. The punters are really going for Grum's new single “I Can't Shake This Feeling” - here's what they're saying around the blogs:“He may reside in Leeds but Grum certainly ain’t grim - he’s super, super!”
“New Grum original track. It's a doozy. The music video is fantastic as well, combining 4 of mans favourite things: Grum, babes, food, n humour.”
“Damn Grum's got it right. A video based around tasty girls scarfing piles of food. wow. Delicious.”
“EARGASM! I kid you not . . . it has got a really 80s vibe to it. In any case, its a superb kind of funk. You can also expect Grum's usual killer beats mixed in. Can't wait to hear more. As for the video, well, you decide. One of the funniest stuff I've seen this week.”
“At first I was like, “Cmon, another slow motion video? And even more, a slow motion video of girls and food.” But no, I was wrong. There is more to this video that more frames per second. Be sure to check out this one for some good times.”
Apparently Grum was named for being a “grumpy bastard” in his younger days, which is somehwhat bemusing given the feel good factor behind is groovy electro house music. The song in particular is reminiscent of many 80's pop classics with a soaring female vocal that sounds a little like Laura Brannigan who had hits with "Gloria" and "Self Control"
The video is a bold mix of the sexual and erotic, with the disturbing and somewhat gruesome footageof sexy girls stuffing their faces with all types of food laid out for them by a sleazy disco style director.But it also tells a humourous narrative of a father seeing his daughter portrayed in one of these videos as he sets out to rescue her from iniquity.The video closes as the father bursts into the studio reproaching the sleazy director with the humourous slogan “We've got plenty of spaghetti!”
I myself had never heard of “Feeder” videos but apparently this is an established genre in adult movies. There has been thematic comparisons with the video for Simian Mobile Disco's “Hustler” which also features attractive girls, but from Benny Benassi's “Satisfaction” to Eric Prydez “Call On Me” I think you can safely say that within the genre there is an established tradition of combining gorgeous girls with somewhat bizarre and abstract items and contexts.Whatever the case be sure to check out this electrohouse music video from Grum for yourself: “I Can't Shake This Feeling”! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2t0Ef1Fs2Hw
Women’s Secret Sexual Desires
by: Ruth Purple
Ah, women and sex, for a man, nothing can be more interesting than a discussion that includes these two fascinating words. However, if a guy wants to get more out of these two words other than just mere discussion, then he needs to be in depth on not just what women want in bed, but their secret sexual desires as well. But first, he needs to understand the basics of women’s sexuality.
The first thing that a man needs to know is the sexual energy flow of women. Unlike most men, where the genitals are the base and pole of their sexual energy, for women, however, their sexual positive pole is in their heart and breast.
This means that a woman usually needs to feel desired and love before she opens herself up for sex. Once the woman’s heart is opened, the sexual energy then flows down to her sex organ and begins to desire intercourse. Keep in mind that the sexual energy of a female is more like water on the boil. It can take a little time to let the temperature rise. Whereas for a man, it is quick to ignite like a fire, and is ready for intercourse in a matter of minutes.Inability to understand both energies can lead to miscommunications and problems.
The second thing that a man needs to know about the basic sexuality of a woman is the motive behind love-making.
When it comes to making love, men usually continue the habit they learned from masturbating, where the goal is just to ejaculate. For women, however, making love is all about connection. If a man’s goal is just to reach his own orgasm, rest assured he is going to have trouble in the sex department. If a man knows what’s best for his sex life, then he should take time connecting through foreplay and other sexual activities with his woman.
Now, I’m going to let you in on some of the women’s secret sexual desires.
- Go all over her body. This is one of the secret desires that most women want their lover to do. Women love it when their man kisses them all over their body. “I want him to kiss and lick down from my toes all the way to my legs, buttocks and back. I want him to excite sensations that come from somewhere other than my vagina, and I’m sure majority of women also yearn for this,” said one woman and I happened to agree with her.
- Longer, louder oral sex. And I mean both ways. It’s no secret that women want longer oral sex, but they love giving it, too especially if the man is vocal enough to tell her that she’s doing a great, uh, job.
- Variety. Women get bored with the same old routine in bed. I’m sure she’s going to love it when her man will treat her rough and raunchy after a night of delicate sex.
- Let her lead. Allow the woman to get in touch with her dominant side by allowing yourself to be her sex slave tonight. Believe me, a man will be fulfilling every woman's most desired sexual fantasy with this one.
- Blindfolds. Bring the woman’s excitement level to great heights tonight by focusing on sensation alone. Rest assured that having a blindfold on will always be one of every woman’s secret desires- for a woman, the feeling of total surrender is always sexy and rousing.
Nobody was born timid, so they say. That’s why when it comes to sexual desires, encourage your woman to open- up, make her lose her inhibition and let her guard down. She will thank you for it.
Ah, women and sex, for a man, nothing can be more interesting than a discussion that includes these two fascinating words. However, if a guy wants to get more out of these two words other than just mere discussion, then he needs to be in depth on not just what women want in bed, but their secret sexual desires as well. But first, he needs to understand the basics of women’s sexuality.
The first thing that a man needs to know is the sexual energy flow of women. Unlike most men, where the genitals are the base and pole of their sexual energy, for women, however, their sexual positive pole is in their heart and breast.
This means that a woman usually needs to feel desired and love before she opens herself up for sex. Once the woman’s heart is opened, the sexual energy then flows down to her sex organ and begins to desire intercourse. Keep in mind that the sexual energy of a female is more like water on the boil. It can take a little time to let the temperature rise. Whereas for a man, it is quick to ignite like a fire, and is ready for intercourse in a matter of minutes.Inability to understand both energies can lead to miscommunications and problems.
The second thing that a man needs to know about the basic sexuality of a woman is the motive behind love-making.
When it comes to making love, men usually continue the habit they learned from masturbating, where the goal is just to ejaculate. For women, however, making love is all about connection. If a man’s goal is just to reach his own orgasm, rest assured he is going to have trouble in the sex department. If a man knows what’s best for his sex life, then he should take time connecting through foreplay and other sexual activities with his woman.
Now, I’m going to let you in on some of the women’s secret sexual desires.
- Go all over her body. This is one of the secret desires that most women want their lover to do. Women love it when their man kisses them all over their body. “I want him to kiss and lick down from my toes all the way to my legs, buttocks and back. I want him to excite sensations that come from somewhere other than my vagina, and I’m sure majority of women also yearn for this,” said one woman and I happened to agree with her.
- Longer, louder oral sex. And I mean both ways. It’s no secret that women want longer oral sex, but they love giving it, too especially if the man is vocal enough to tell her that she’s doing a great, uh, job.
- Variety. Women get bored with the same old routine in bed. I’m sure she’s going to love it when her man will treat her rough and raunchy after a night of delicate sex.
- Let her lead. Allow the woman to get in touch with her dominant side by allowing yourself to be her sex slave tonight. Believe me, a man will be fulfilling every woman's most desired sexual fantasy with this one.
- Blindfolds. Bring the woman’s excitement level to great heights tonight by focusing on sensation alone. Rest assured that having a blindfold on will always be one of every woman’s secret desires- for a woman, the feeling of total surrender is always sexy and rousing.
Nobody was born timid, so they say. That’s why when it comes to sexual desires, encourage your woman to open- up, make her lose her inhibition and let her guard down. She will thank you for it.
Recover Deleted Text to Get Answers About Teen Bullying, Sexting, And Drug Use
by: Ed Opperman
Do you have what seems like a million unanswered questions running through your mind about the activities that you believe your teenager to be involved in? None of us as parents want to think that our children engage in unacceptable behavior, but the reality is that many of them do. Although devices such as the Internet and cell phones can offer a large amount of advantages, they can also provide an easy way for our kids to become exposed and involved in things such as sexting, bullying, and even illegal drug use. One thing that all parents should know is that even though your teenager may remove texts, pictures, videos, and other data from their cellular device, you can still recover deleted text and other data to get the answers that you have been looking for.
A cell phone forensic investigation is a beneficial service that professional experts provide to countless parents that are stressing over the fact that their teen may be involved in bullying other kids in their school or neighborhood, sending and receiving sext messages with their boyfriend or girlfriend, or dabbling in the use of illegal drug substances. Aside from knowing how to recover deleted text, the expertise of professionals in cell phone forensic investigations can also provide you with the following data that has already been deleted from your teenager's phone:
· Caller ID
· Email addresses
· Address book
· Names and telephone numbers of your teens contacts
· Inappropriate videos they have removed from the phone
· Photographs and graphics
· Call records containing detailed information like the duration and time of calls made and received
· SMS messages
· Sext messages
· Other deleted data
There are even times that some parents would like to undelete deleted text because they accidentally removed data as they were trying to search through their teen's cell phone. If you would like to recover deleted text messages and other data from your teen's cellular device, a cell phone forensic investigation is actually the best possible investigative tool that you can use.
As parents, each of us need to fight back in every way possible against the teen bullying, sexting, and illegal drug use that seems to be spiraling out of control all over the world. Experts that know how to recover deleted text messages and other helpful data, gives a large number of parents a leading edge for trying to help control these types of problems.
Copyright (c) 2010 Ed Opperman
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Do you have what seems like a million unanswered questions running through your mind about the activities that you believe your teenager to be involved in? None of us as parents want to think that our children engage in unacceptable behavior, but the reality is that many of them do. Although devices such as the Internet and cell phones can offer a large amount of advantages, they can also provide an easy way for our kids to become exposed and involved in things such as sexting, bullying, and even illegal drug use. One thing that all parents should know is that even though your teenager may remove texts, pictures, videos, and other data from their cellular device, you can still recover deleted text and other data to get the answers that you have been looking for.
A cell phone forensic investigation is a beneficial service that professional experts provide to countless parents that are stressing over the fact that their teen may be involved in bullying other kids in their school or neighborhood, sending and receiving sext messages with their boyfriend or girlfriend, or dabbling in the use of illegal drug substances. Aside from knowing how to recover deleted text, the expertise of professionals in cell phone forensic investigations can also provide you with the following data that has already been deleted from your teenager's phone:
· Caller ID
· Email addresses
· Address book
· Names and telephone numbers of your teens contacts
· Inappropriate videos they have removed from the phone
· Photographs and graphics
· Call records containing detailed information like the duration and time of calls made and received
· SMS messages
· Sext messages
· Other deleted data
There are even times that some parents would like to undelete deleted text because they accidentally removed data as they were trying to search through their teen's cell phone. If you would like to recover deleted text messages and other data from your teen's cellular device, a cell phone forensic investigation is actually the best possible investigative tool that you can use.
As parents, each of us need to fight back in every way possible against the teen bullying, sexting, and illegal drug use that seems to be spiraling out of control all over the world. Experts that know how to recover deleted text messages and other helpful data, gives a large number of parents a leading edge for trying to help control these types of problems.
Copyright (c) 2010 Ed Opperman
Sexting and Teens - Retrieve Deleted Text to Get the Details
by: Ed Opperman
It is common knowledge that teens are going to test you to the limit by pushing the boundaries which you set for them. One way that some teens choose to do this is by engaging in sexting with their cell phones. Many teens are under the impression that once these messages are deleted no one will be the wiser. Rest assured there are ways that you can retrieve deleted text from their cell phones to find out what your teens are up to. If you have teenagers of your own, this is one avenue you will most definitely want to explore.
In addition to being able to retrieve deleted text from cell phones, a forensic cell phone investigation can uncover other important information as well. Some of this information often includes contact names and phone numbers, deleted video and pictures, incoming and outgoing calls and deleted voice messages. By recovering this erased information it is often possible to see exactly what kind of messages are being sent and received from your teen's phone. This will help in determining what kind of activities they may be participating in, so that you will be better equipped to take the appropriate action to keep your kids safe.
SIM card readers are believed by many to be a beneficial tool to retrieve deleted text from cell phones. However, they are actually very ineffective. In many cases these readers destroy the very information you are trying to get your hands on, and once this information is destroyed it cannot be recovered. This can lead to frustration, not to mention the fact that you still do not have the information you were trying to obtain in the first place. Even specialists that are trained in retrieving this information will often have to use several tools before finding the right one for a specific model of phone.
If you believe your teen is involved in sexting on their cell phone, or any other dangerous or possibly illegal activity, you should consider this option. By turning to someone who is trained to retrieve deleted text it will ensure that you will gain access to information contained on the phone in a timely manner. In the long run, this will make you much more equipped to deal with the situation and do whatever is necessary to keep your teen safe from harm. As parents this is our job, and forensics investigators can give us the information to do this job effectively.
Copyright (c) 2010 Ed Opperman
It is common knowledge that teens are going to test you to the limit by pushing the boundaries which you set for them. One way that some teens choose to do this is by engaging in sexting with their cell phones. Many teens are under the impression that once these messages are deleted no one will be the wiser. Rest assured there are ways that you can retrieve deleted text from their cell phones to find out what your teens are up to. If you have teenagers of your own, this is one avenue you will most definitely want to explore.
In addition to being able to retrieve deleted text from cell phones, a forensic cell phone investigation can uncover other important information as well. Some of this information often includes contact names and phone numbers, deleted video and pictures, incoming and outgoing calls and deleted voice messages. By recovering this erased information it is often possible to see exactly what kind of messages are being sent and received from your teen's phone. This will help in determining what kind of activities they may be participating in, so that you will be better equipped to take the appropriate action to keep your kids safe.
SIM card readers are believed by many to be a beneficial tool to retrieve deleted text from cell phones. However, they are actually very ineffective. In many cases these readers destroy the very information you are trying to get your hands on, and once this information is destroyed it cannot be recovered. This can lead to frustration, not to mention the fact that you still do not have the information you were trying to obtain in the first place. Even specialists that are trained in retrieving this information will often have to use several tools before finding the right one for a specific model of phone.
If you believe your teen is involved in sexting on their cell phone, or any other dangerous or possibly illegal activity, you should consider this option. By turning to someone who is trained to retrieve deleted text it will ensure that you will gain access to information contained on the phone in a timely manner. In the long run, this will make you much more equipped to deal with the situation and do whatever is necessary to keep your teen safe from harm. As parents this is our job, and forensics investigators can give us the information to do this job effectively.
Copyright (c) 2010 Ed Opperman
Is Your Teen Sexting? Recover Deleted Text Messages And Find Out!
by: Ed Opperman
One of the most common forms of communication today that is used among a majority of teenagers, is through text and SMS messages that can be sent over a cell phone. These devices can be very handy when it comes to checking in with their parents, staying in contact with family members and friends, and having a way to make emergency phone calls, but there is also a downfall, as cellular devices also have some disadvantages as well. Unfortunately, what many parents do not realize is that there are forms of unacceptable behavior that many teens engage in on their phones, which can be discovered when you have a professional recover deleted text messages.
It is not at all uncommon for teens to engage in activities such as sending and receiving sext messages with their boyfriend or girlfriend. In fact, there are a countless number of our kids that are engaging in this type of activity on a regular basis. One problem that seems to be growing all the time all around the world is acts of bullying another teen through text messages that can be sent through a cellular device. Yet another huge problem that many parents find themselves dealing with is a teenager that is sending texts that involve the use of illegal drug substances. In each of these types of situations a professional expert can recover deleted text messages for your child's cellular device, which will give you the information you need to either prove or disprove problems that may be occurring.
Besides undeleting text messages, there is also a variety of other helpful data that an expert can retrieve from cell phones. The following would include a list of the most common deleted data that you can obtain through a cell phone forensic investigation:
· Contact names and telephone numbers
· Videos
· Photographs and graphics
· Sext messages
· SMS messages
· Call records that contain detailed information on the duration and times of calls that have been received and made
· Caller ID
· Address book
· Email addresses
· Other data that your teen has deleted
When you consult with a professional that knows how to recover deleted text messages and other data from your teenagers cellular device, it will give you the helpful information that you need to confront your child on problems that may be occurring with sexting, and can prove or disprove their involvement. When you believe sexting has become a problem your teen has been engaging in, a cell phone forensic investigation is actually the best investigative tool that you can use to recover deleted text.
Copyright (c) 2010 Ed Opperman
One of the most common forms of communication today that is used among a majority of teenagers, is through text and SMS messages that can be sent over a cell phone. These devices can be very handy when it comes to checking in with their parents, staying in contact with family members and friends, and having a way to make emergency phone calls, but there is also a downfall, as cellular devices also have some disadvantages as well. Unfortunately, what many parents do not realize is that there are forms of unacceptable behavior that many teens engage in on their phones, which can be discovered when you have a professional recover deleted text messages.
It is not at all uncommon for teens to engage in activities such as sending and receiving sext messages with their boyfriend or girlfriend. In fact, there are a countless number of our kids that are engaging in this type of activity on a regular basis. One problem that seems to be growing all the time all around the world is acts of bullying another teen through text messages that can be sent through a cellular device. Yet another huge problem that many parents find themselves dealing with is a teenager that is sending texts that involve the use of illegal drug substances. In each of these types of situations a professional expert can recover deleted text messages for your child's cellular device, which will give you the information you need to either prove or disprove problems that may be occurring.
Besides undeleting text messages, there is also a variety of other helpful data that an expert can retrieve from cell phones. The following would include a list of the most common deleted data that you can obtain through a cell phone forensic investigation:
· Contact names and telephone numbers
· Videos
· Photographs and graphics
· Sext messages
· SMS messages
· Call records that contain detailed information on the duration and times of calls that have been received and made
· Caller ID
· Address book
· Email addresses
· Other data that your teen has deleted
When you consult with a professional that knows how to recover deleted text messages and other data from your teenagers cellular device, it will give you the helpful information that you need to confront your child on problems that may be occurring with sexting, and can prove or disprove their involvement. When you believe sexting has become a problem your teen has been engaging in, a cell phone forensic investigation is actually the best investigative tool that you can use to recover deleted text.
Copyright (c) 2010 Ed Opperman
When Experts Retrieve Deleted Text, Teen Sexting is Often Revealed
by: Ed Opperman
As the times have changed, so have many of the activities that our teen children have become involved in. Much of this is due to various tools of technology that they have available at their fingertips. This would include such devices as high-tech video games, the Internet, and even cell phones. Sexting on cell phones has become a leading problem that numerous parents have run into with their teenagers. This is where sexually explicit messages are sent and received through texts that are sent to other teens. Sexting is not just a problem that is localized to any one area, it has become such a popular activity that many of our kids are doing all around the world. Because of its unacceptable nature, there are countless parents that are continuously trying to find ways that they can retrieve deleted text messages and other forms of data from their teenagers cell phone, which will give them an opportunity to find out exactly what their child may be doing that they are unaware of.
Thanks to continuous advancements that are always being made in technology, there is an investigative tool that is available to help parents undelete deleted text. A cell phone forensic investigation is a valuable service that is performed by an experienced private investigator that knows exactly how to retrieve deleted text and other data that your child may have erased from their cell phone. To list some of the deleted data that is most commonly recovered are as follows:
· Sext messages and SMS text messages that have been sent and received
· Address book
· Caller ID
· Email addresses
· Video
· Graphics and pictures
· Phone numbers and names in the contact list
· Call records with detailed information of the time and duration calls were made and received
· Other deleted data
As you can see there is a lot of helpful information that can be recovered, and the great part about it, is it only takes around 48 hours to receive a disk from the investigator containing a detailed report of all of the data that was recovered. When you send in the phone you believe to hold suspicious evidence, they will perform the investigation using specialized tools to retrieve deleted text messages and any other data that your teen has removed from the phone.
If you are a parent with a teenager that you believe is heading down the wrong path and making bad decisions, a professional investigator can retrieve deleted text and other erased data that can reveal sexting, illegal drug use, and other activities your teen may be engaging in.
Copyright (c) 2010 Ed Opperman
As the times have changed, so have many of the activities that our teen children have become involved in. Much of this is due to various tools of technology that they have available at their fingertips. This would include such devices as high-tech video games, the Internet, and even cell phones. Sexting on cell phones has become a leading problem that numerous parents have run into with their teenagers. This is where sexually explicit messages are sent and received through texts that are sent to other teens. Sexting is not just a problem that is localized to any one area, it has become such a popular activity that many of our kids are doing all around the world. Because of its unacceptable nature, there are countless parents that are continuously trying to find ways that they can retrieve deleted text messages and other forms of data from their teenagers cell phone, which will give them an opportunity to find out exactly what their child may be doing that they are unaware of.
Thanks to continuous advancements that are always being made in technology, there is an investigative tool that is available to help parents undelete deleted text. A cell phone forensic investigation is a valuable service that is performed by an experienced private investigator that knows exactly how to retrieve deleted text and other data that your child may have erased from their cell phone. To list some of the deleted data that is most commonly recovered are as follows:
· Sext messages and SMS text messages that have been sent and received
· Address book
· Caller ID
· Email addresses
· Video
· Graphics and pictures
· Phone numbers and names in the contact list
· Call records with detailed information of the time and duration calls were made and received
· Other deleted data
As you can see there is a lot of helpful information that can be recovered, and the great part about it, is it only takes around 48 hours to receive a disk from the investigator containing a detailed report of all of the data that was recovered. When you send in the phone you believe to hold suspicious evidence, they will perform the investigation using specialized tools to retrieve deleted text messages and any other data that your teen has removed from the phone.
If you are a parent with a teenager that you believe is heading down the wrong path and making bad decisions, a professional investigator can retrieve deleted text and other erased data that can reveal sexting, illegal drug use, and other activities your teen may be engaging in.
Copyright (c) 2010 Ed Opperman
Who Says Marketing Is Not Sexy?
by: Janice Jenkins
Sex is good. Most doctors are in agreement that frequent and loving sex is actually good for one’s health. Sex is particularly beneficial if this is done with the right partner and with the right atmosphere. This is also true for marketing your business. You have to have the right partner and the perfect timing to achieve a tumultuous impact.
The right partner means the right marketing collateral that would support your marketing strategy. Do you need a television spot? Would a simple brochure printing do the trick? Are stickers your best option? These are the questions you may want to ask yourself before you start your ‘affair.’ You want to get the best partner to a very gratifying marketing campaign. In choosing the right partner, you have to consider the following:
First, you have to be clear about what you want. In human terms, you have to define how you want your partner to be. Do you want someone with blond or auburn hair? Passive or dominant? Short or tall? Certainly, there are traits that you look for in a partner and this is also true when you decide on what is the best partner for your marketing campaign.
The partner that you will select for your campaign depends on your marketing objectives. Your objectives should not just be something rhetoric like ‘I want to increase my sales.’ It has to be specific and measurable. Try rephrasing your generic objective by adding specific targets. Consider this objective: ‘I want to increase my sales by 25% for the next 6 months.’ This statement conveys what you want, how much share you want, and when you want this done. It is as clear as it can get.
If this is your objective then you can now consider your partners. There is a wide array of marketing collaterals that are available to you to achieve the objective above. You have brochure printing, flyers, posters or leaflets. If your pocket is deeper, you can consider doing a television ad. Whatever it may be, it would all depend on your target.
Second, you can now proceed to the body of your partner. Whether it is a television ad or print brochures, you have to have a body or content that is attention grabbing. The body or content should not only be able to catch the attention of your would be customers, it should also be able to convey your message clearly. This goes for your print brochures or other marketing collaterals – limit your message to three distinguishable main points. Consult your brochure printing provider for a good layout that will highlight your key points.
So who says developing your marketing strategy is not sexy?
For comments and inquiries about the article visit: http://www.printplace.com/printing/brochure-printing.aspx
Sex is good. Most doctors are in agreement that frequent and loving sex is actually good for one’s health. Sex is particularly beneficial if this is done with the right partner and with the right atmosphere. This is also true for marketing your business. You have to have the right partner and the perfect timing to achieve a tumultuous impact.
The right partner means the right marketing collateral that would support your marketing strategy. Do you need a television spot? Would a simple brochure printing do the trick? Are stickers your best option? These are the questions you may want to ask yourself before you start your ‘affair.’ You want to get the best partner to a very gratifying marketing campaign. In choosing the right partner, you have to consider the following:
First, you have to be clear about what you want. In human terms, you have to define how you want your partner to be. Do you want someone with blond or auburn hair? Passive or dominant? Short or tall? Certainly, there are traits that you look for in a partner and this is also true when you decide on what is the best partner for your marketing campaign.
The partner that you will select for your campaign depends on your marketing objectives. Your objectives should not just be something rhetoric like ‘I want to increase my sales.’ It has to be specific and measurable. Try rephrasing your generic objective by adding specific targets. Consider this objective: ‘I want to increase my sales by 25% for the next 6 months.’ This statement conveys what you want, how much share you want, and when you want this done. It is as clear as it can get.
If this is your objective then you can now consider your partners. There is a wide array of marketing collaterals that are available to you to achieve the objective above. You have brochure printing, flyers, posters or leaflets. If your pocket is deeper, you can consider doing a television ad. Whatever it may be, it would all depend on your target.
Second, you can now proceed to the body of your partner. Whether it is a television ad or print brochures, you have to have a body or content that is attention grabbing. The body or content should not only be able to catch the attention of your would be customers, it should also be able to convey your message clearly. This goes for your print brochures or other marketing collaterals – limit your message to three distinguishable main points. Consult your brochure printing provider for a good layout that will highlight your key points.
So who says developing your marketing strategy is not sexy?
For comments and inquiries about the article visit: http://www.printplace.com/printing/brochure-printing.aspx
Cyber Stalkers Often Escalate to Sexual Predators
by: Ed Opperman
Many individuals do not take cyber stalkers seriously because they do not consider this problem to be very serious. After all what can a person do to you through words on a computer screen? Because of this belief many of these individuals simply delete the unwanted emails they receive from these individuals and often don't think much more about it. What these people fail to realize is that this can be a very dangerous practice. Many people that begin stalking in cyber space do so because they are not yet confident enough to attempt to intimidate someone in person. When allowed to get away with this cyber intimidation many of these stalkers become more confident and over time escalate to sexual predators.
Despite what many people believe there are ways to stop cyber stalkers. The easiest and most common method used to identify these predators is a reverse email look-up. This process allows an internet investigation to be conducted and pertinent information about the stalker to be identified. The information that can be obtained through this type of investigation includes the intimidator's name, address and phone number, place of employment, internet service provider, browser, website activity and in some cases even the operating system and location of the computer used.
In some instances people who become the victims of cyber stalkers attempt to uncover this information on their own through websites which claim to be able to get this data instantly. These websites are not very effective for this process and often produce completely inaccurate results. The best thing to do is turn to a professional who is skilled to perform a proper reverse email look-up in order to get the best results. The average amount of time needed to conduct an investigation of this sort is anywhere from 24 hours to 14 days.
It is important that individuals who are subjected to the intimidation of cyber stalkers do not sit by and do nothing. Nobody wants to find that they did nothing about a situation such as this, to find that the guilty party ended up becoming a dangerous sexual predator that engaged in serious behavior online AND off. Rest assured that a highly skilled and trained investigator can get the information that is necessary to stop these stalkers and therefore prevent or at least prolong another person from being subjected to the same intimidation. If you do nothing about this occurrence how can you expect anyone else to?
Copyright (c) 2010 Ed Opperman
Many individuals do not take cyber stalkers seriously because they do not consider this problem to be very serious. After all what can a person do to you through words on a computer screen? Because of this belief many of these individuals simply delete the unwanted emails they receive from these individuals and often don't think much more about it. What these people fail to realize is that this can be a very dangerous practice. Many people that begin stalking in cyber space do so because they are not yet confident enough to attempt to intimidate someone in person. When allowed to get away with this cyber intimidation many of these stalkers become more confident and over time escalate to sexual predators.
Despite what many people believe there are ways to stop cyber stalkers. The easiest and most common method used to identify these predators is a reverse email look-up. This process allows an internet investigation to be conducted and pertinent information about the stalker to be identified. The information that can be obtained through this type of investigation includes the intimidator's name, address and phone number, place of employment, internet service provider, browser, website activity and in some cases even the operating system and location of the computer used.
In some instances people who become the victims of cyber stalkers attempt to uncover this information on their own through websites which claim to be able to get this data instantly. These websites are not very effective for this process and often produce completely inaccurate results. The best thing to do is turn to a professional who is skilled to perform a proper reverse email look-up in order to get the best results. The average amount of time needed to conduct an investigation of this sort is anywhere from 24 hours to 14 days.
It is important that individuals who are subjected to the intimidation of cyber stalkers do not sit by and do nothing. Nobody wants to find that they did nothing about a situation such as this, to find that the guilty party ended up becoming a dangerous sexual predator that engaged in serious behavior online AND off. Rest assured that a highly skilled and trained investigator can get the information that is necessary to stop these stalkers and therefore prevent or at least prolong another person from being subjected to the same intimidation. If you do nothing about this occurrence how can you expect anyone else to?
Copyright (c) 2010 Ed Opperman
At What Point Does Flirting Turn to Sexting? Retrieve Deleted Text to Find Out
by: Ed Opperman
For many people, there is often a very fine line between what they consider to be flirting and sexting when it comes to text messages that are sent or received on a person's cell phone. This is especially true for an individual that is part of a marriage or for someone that is in a long-term relationship. After all, who wants their partner to be flirting or sending sext messages with another individual? How about families that have a child who has reached their teenage years? For parents, it can be very hard to know the lines of flirting or sexting unless you retrieve deleted text messages and other data from your teens cell phone. When you are worried about the activities that your child may be taking part in, in many cases this is the only way that you can find out what they actually are up to.
There are numerous parents that are taking advantage of the wide variety of information that can be found when different types of data are retrieved from their teenager's cell phone. It is a benefit that can often put their mind to rest about worries they have had over their child's behavior. When you consult with a knowledgeable private investigator to retrieve deleted text messages and other data that can be removed from cell phones, you are gaining control over situations that you would otherwise be left to feel completely helpless over. Information that your child often erases from their phones in an attempt to keep the information completely away from their parents include deleted text and sext messages, pictures and videos, phone numbers and names of contacts, and several other items that could answer many questions you have had about the activity your child is engaging in. Thanks to technology supplied to expert investigators, they are able to retrieve deleted text and each of these other forms of data.
When you send your child's blackberry, palm pilot, SIM card, PDA, or other digital device, it only takes approximately 7 days for the investigator to perform a cell phone forensics investigation that will retrieve deleted text and other data. Then you will be supplied with a disk that holds detailed information about any flirting, texting, sexting, or other activity that has been erased from the phone. This gives you the perfect opportunity to make your own decision on whether your teen is simply flirting or if they are crossing the line into sexting.
Copyright (c) 2010 Ed Opperman
For many people, there is often a very fine line between what they consider to be flirting and sexting when it comes to text messages that are sent or received on a person's cell phone. This is especially true for an individual that is part of a marriage or for someone that is in a long-term relationship. After all, who wants their partner to be flirting or sending sext messages with another individual? How about families that have a child who has reached their teenage years? For parents, it can be very hard to know the lines of flirting or sexting unless you retrieve deleted text messages and other data from your teens cell phone. When you are worried about the activities that your child may be taking part in, in many cases this is the only way that you can find out what they actually are up to.
There are numerous parents that are taking advantage of the wide variety of information that can be found when different types of data are retrieved from their teenager's cell phone. It is a benefit that can often put their mind to rest about worries they have had over their child's behavior. When you consult with a knowledgeable private investigator to retrieve deleted text messages and other data that can be removed from cell phones, you are gaining control over situations that you would otherwise be left to feel completely helpless over. Information that your child often erases from their phones in an attempt to keep the information completely away from their parents include deleted text and sext messages, pictures and videos, phone numbers and names of contacts, and several other items that could answer many questions you have had about the activity your child is engaging in. Thanks to technology supplied to expert investigators, they are able to retrieve deleted text and each of these other forms of data.
When you send your child's blackberry, palm pilot, SIM card, PDA, or other digital device, it only takes approximately 7 days for the investigator to perform a cell phone forensics investigation that will retrieve deleted text and other data. Then you will be supplied with a disk that holds detailed information about any flirting, texting, sexting, or other activity that has been erased from the phone. This gives you the perfect opportunity to make your own decision on whether your teen is simply flirting or if they are crossing the line into sexting.
Copyright (c) 2010 Ed Opperman
How To Deal With Sexual Innuendoes
by: Roseanna Leaton
Everyone's different. Circumstances differ. We each have our own idea of what is appropriate behavior or suitable language. Unfortunately there is no standard script which outlines clearly what phrases, tonality or body language is going to perfectly fit in with everyone's idea of what is deemed to be passable.
It is very easy to overstep the mark. When running a Google search on "sexual innuendoes" I quickly came across a website offering sixty pick-up lines which contained sexual innuendoes. This would not be readily available if people did not use them, or if they were not well received by some. But this does not mean that everyone would appreciate them.
When in doubt about how well your planned comment may be received it is better therefore to bite your tongue and back off until you get to know the other person a little better. In the "free world" in which we live, many people's perspective is clouded by the view that it's ok to say whatever you might like, and if the other person doesn't appreciate it, then it's their hard luck - they are being boring or have no sense of humor and they need to "get over it".
You may be right. You may be wrong. But is being right or wrong the most important thing? If you have said something which has upset another person's feelings, albeit unintentionally and unexpectedly, would it not be better all round to simply say "I'm sorry, I didn't mean to upset you" and make a mental note to be more careful with your wording in future?
For the person who has been on the receiving end of an inappropriate sexual innuendo, how should you respond? It's easy to take it personally, but should you? It's easy to get tied up in your emotions and feel hurt, affronted and upset, but is this the best response? The question to ask yourself is how do you get this person to understand that you do not appreciate this type of comment and ensure that they do not make sexual innuendoes to you in future?
The answer is usually to look them straight in the eye and tell them in a very clear, concise and polite way that you have, for whatever reason, been upset by their comments or actions and please could they refrain from doing or saying that type of thing again. Personally, I would also begin the conversation by saying something along the lines of "I know you wouldn't mean to offend me and I'm sorry if I have misled you or if I seem prudish but..." as this is a way of saying that you are not trying to say that they are in the wrong; you are merely saying that you don't enjoy that type of approach.
This type of phrasing is designed to diffuse the situation, and pave the way to moving forwards easily in a more appropriate manner. As I said, it is more important to achieve the end result that you wish than to quibble about what or who is right or wrong. This is especially true when the sexual innuendo has been presented to you by a family member, colleague or acquaintance. It is easier to get that person to stop by inferring that it's you who might possibly be in the wrong, but...could they please stop in any case.
Needless to say, the types of sexual innuendo I'm referring to here are those of the milder form. I'm not talking about dealing with what is major sexual harassment, although this is probably a good way in which to attempt to deflect that as well.
Roseanna Leaton, specialist in hypnosis downloads for relationship issues and sexual confidence.
P.S. Please do grab yourself a free hypnosis download from my website.
http://www.RoseannaLeaton.com
Everyone's different. Circumstances differ. We each have our own idea of what is appropriate behavior or suitable language. Unfortunately there is no standard script which outlines clearly what phrases, tonality or body language is going to perfectly fit in with everyone's idea of what is deemed to be passable.
It is very easy to overstep the mark. When running a Google search on "sexual innuendoes" I quickly came across a website offering sixty pick-up lines which contained sexual innuendoes. This would not be readily available if people did not use them, or if they were not well received by some. But this does not mean that everyone would appreciate them.
When in doubt about how well your planned comment may be received it is better therefore to bite your tongue and back off until you get to know the other person a little better. In the "free world" in which we live, many people's perspective is clouded by the view that it's ok to say whatever you might like, and if the other person doesn't appreciate it, then it's their hard luck - they are being boring or have no sense of humor and they need to "get over it".
You may be right. You may be wrong. But is being right or wrong the most important thing? If you have said something which has upset another person's feelings, albeit unintentionally and unexpectedly, would it not be better all round to simply say "I'm sorry, I didn't mean to upset you" and make a mental note to be more careful with your wording in future?
For the person who has been on the receiving end of an inappropriate sexual innuendo, how should you respond? It's easy to take it personally, but should you? It's easy to get tied up in your emotions and feel hurt, affronted and upset, but is this the best response? The question to ask yourself is how do you get this person to understand that you do not appreciate this type of comment and ensure that they do not make sexual innuendoes to you in future?
The answer is usually to look them straight in the eye and tell them in a very clear, concise and polite way that you have, for whatever reason, been upset by their comments or actions and please could they refrain from doing or saying that type of thing again. Personally, I would also begin the conversation by saying something along the lines of "I know you wouldn't mean to offend me and I'm sorry if I have misled you or if I seem prudish but..." as this is a way of saying that you are not trying to say that they are in the wrong; you are merely saying that you don't enjoy that type of approach.
This type of phrasing is designed to diffuse the situation, and pave the way to moving forwards easily in a more appropriate manner. As I said, it is more important to achieve the end result that you wish than to quibble about what or who is right or wrong. This is especially true when the sexual innuendo has been presented to you by a family member, colleague or acquaintance. It is easier to get that person to stop by inferring that it's you who might possibly be in the wrong, but...could they please stop in any case.
Needless to say, the types of sexual innuendo I'm referring to here are those of the milder form. I'm not talking about dealing with what is major sexual harassment, although this is probably a good way in which to attempt to deflect that as well.
Roseanna Leaton, specialist in hypnosis downloads for relationship issues and sexual confidence.
P.S. Please do grab yourself a free hypnosis download from my website.
http://www.RoseannaLeaton.com
Recover Deleted Text to Uncover Evidence of Sexting, Flirting or Cheating
by: Ed Opperman
There is a fine line between sexting and flirting through text messages and actual cheating. It often does not take much for this line to be crossed even inadvertently. If you suspect your partner may be guilty of any of these activities you can recover deleted text to find out for sure. This will not only give you peace of mind by finally getting the answers to all your suspicions, but it will also give you all the information you need to prove what you have suspected all along. This alone can make you feel much better about the events going on in your life and your partners.
Forensic investigations can be performed on cell phones to recover deleted text as well as a multitude of other important information. Some of this information may include deleted address book and contact entries, picture and video files, deleted caller ID files and voice mails. In addition to all of this you can even get a list of all the incoming and outgoing calls made to or from a particular phone, as well as how long each of these calls lasted. This information alone can be detrimental to someone who is trying to deny these types of allegations.
SIM card readers are widely available; however these are often tremendously ineffective when you attempt to use them to recover deleted text. This is because they do not work properly for this process on many phones. Many times instead of recovering helpful data, these readers damage or completely destroy the information that you are trying to retrieve. Once this data is damaged or destroyed it cannot be recovered and is completely worthless. This leads to severe frustration on the part of the person who is looking for answers as to their partner's infidelity or cell phone activities.
The best course of action to take when trying to recover deleted text is to trust a professional investigator who is highly skilled and experienced in this process. By doing this, you will ensure that you will be able to get the data you are after. This will give you all the information you need should future questions or confrontations arise as a result of your partner's actions. This type of forensic investigation is often complete in as little as seven days and comes complete with a detailed report of the exact results of the investigation that has been performed.
Copyright (c) 2010 Ed Opperman
There is a fine line between sexting and flirting through text messages and actual cheating. It often does not take much for this line to be crossed even inadvertently. If you suspect your partner may be guilty of any of these activities you can recover deleted text to find out for sure. This will not only give you peace of mind by finally getting the answers to all your suspicions, but it will also give you all the information you need to prove what you have suspected all along. This alone can make you feel much better about the events going on in your life and your partners.
Forensic investigations can be performed on cell phones to recover deleted text as well as a multitude of other important information. Some of this information may include deleted address book and contact entries, picture and video files, deleted caller ID files and voice mails. In addition to all of this you can even get a list of all the incoming and outgoing calls made to or from a particular phone, as well as how long each of these calls lasted. This information alone can be detrimental to someone who is trying to deny these types of allegations.
SIM card readers are widely available; however these are often tremendously ineffective when you attempt to use them to recover deleted text. This is because they do not work properly for this process on many phones. Many times instead of recovering helpful data, these readers damage or completely destroy the information that you are trying to retrieve. Once this data is damaged or destroyed it cannot be recovered and is completely worthless. This leads to severe frustration on the part of the person who is looking for answers as to their partner's infidelity or cell phone activities.
The best course of action to take when trying to recover deleted text is to trust a professional investigator who is highly skilled and experienced in this process. By doing this, you will ensure that you will be able to get the data you are after. This will give you all the information you need should future questions or confrontations arise as a result of your partner's actions. This type of forensic investigation is often complete in as little as seven days and comes complete with a detailed report of the exact results of the investigation that has been performed.
Copyright (c) 2010 Ed Opperman
Why Won't my Partner Have Sex With Me?
by: Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
I have worked with individuals and couples for the past 42 years, and I have heard this question countless times: "Why doesn't my partner want to have sex with me?"
Over and over, I discover that there is often ONE major reason he or she doesn’t want to have sex.
Take Lawrence as an example. Lawrence learned as an adolescent to use sex addictively. He would find his father's porn magazines that his father thought were hidden away and use them to satisfy himself. As he grew older, he learned to use the Internet for the same purpose - turning to his sexual addiction to fill the inner emptiness that came from his self-abandonment. Because Lawrence had never learned to take responsibility for his own feelings, he had learned to use not only sex, but wine and anger as well to fill his emptiness and take away his aloneness.
When he got married, he never saw his wife, Annie, as an equal. Because he had developed the belief that women were objects to be used by men, Annie was just someone to be used to satisfy his neediness.
Before his work with me, both Annie and Lawrence believed there was something wrong with Annie sexually. Annie did not understand why she didn't want to make love with Lawrence. She didn't know why her body just seemed to shut down sexually when he came on to her. She loved Lawrence, but she could not stand to have sex with him. Sometimes she forced herself rather than endure his anger at her, but lately she was no longer forcing herself. It felt too awful.
It was obvious to me in my first phone session with Lawrence that the problem was that Lawrence was coming to Annie as a needy little boy rather than as a loving man. Most women do not find needy little boys at all attractive or erotic.
Lawrence was convinced that either he wasn't attractive enough, or that there was something wrong with Annie. Neither is true.
As I worked with Lawrence with Inner Bonding®, he gradually learned to take responsibility for his own feelings. He gradually learned how to be loving to himself, how to connect with his spiritual source of love, and how to fill himself with love so that he had love to share with Annie. Gradually, he stopped pulling on Annie for sex and stopped getting angry when she didn't want to have sex with him.
Then, in one of our phone sessions, Lawrence announced, "Annie made love to me the other night, all on her own!"
I had been assuring Lawrence that when he stopped seeing Annie as an object to be used to validate him and fill him up - when he stopped being needy and instead shared his love with her, she would re-discover her sexuality. And, of course, she did!
As long as Lawrence was abandoning himself and making Annie responsible for his sense of worth, he was focused on having control over getting Annie to have sex with him. There was no way that Annie would be turned to him when he was trying to control her and use her. But when Lawrence took on the responsibility of defining his own worth and giving himself the love he was trying so hard to get from Annie, he was able to let go of the control and be present with Annie with love.
Over and over I have seen relationships move back into passion when a needy partner learns how to be loving to themselves and come from love rather than neediness.
I have worked with individuals and couples for the past 42 years, and I have heard this question countless times: "Why doesn't my partner want to have sex with me?"
Over and over, I discover that there is often ONE major reason he or she doesn’t want to have sex.
Take Lawrence as an example. Lawrence learned as an adolescent to use sex addictively. He would find his father's porn magazines that his father thought were hidden away and use them to satisfy himself. As he grew older, he learned to use the Internet for the same purpose - turning to his sexual addiction to fill the inner emptiness that came from his self-abandonment. Because Lawrence had never learned to take responsibility for his own feelings, he had learned to use not only sex, but wine and anger as well to fill his emptiness and take away his aloneness.
When he got married, he never saw his wife, Annie, as an equal. Because he had developed the belief that women were objects to be used by men, Annie was just someone to be used to satisfy his neediness.
Before his work with me, both Annie and Lawrence believed there was something wrong with Annie sexually. Annie did not understand why she didn't want to make love with Lawrence. She didn't know why her body just seemed to shut down sexually when he came on to her. She loved Lawrence, but she could not stand to have sex with him. Sometimes she forced herself rather than endure his anger at her, but lately she was no longer forcing herself. It felt too awful.
It was obvious to me in my first phone session with Lawrence that the problem was that Lawrence was coming to Annie as a needy little boy rather than as a loving man. Most women do not find needy little boys at all attractive or erotic.
Lawrence was convinced that either he wasn't attractive enough, or that there was something wrong with Annie. Neither is true.
As I worked with Lawrence with Inner Bonding®, he gradually learned to take responsibility for his own feelings. He gradually learned how to be loving to himself, how to connect with his spiritual source of love, and how to fill himself with love so that he had love to share with Annie. Gradually, he stopped pulling on Annie for sex and stopped getting angry when she didn't want to have sex with him.
Then, in one of our phone sessions, Lawrence announced, "Annie made love to me the other night, all on her own!"
I had been assuring Lawrence that when he stopped seeing Annie as an object to be used to validate him and fill him up - when he stopped being needy and instead shared his love with her, she would re-discover her sexuality. And, of course, she did!
As long as Lawrence was abandoning himself and making Annie responsible for his sense of worth, he was focused on having control over getting Annie to have sex with him. There was no way that Annie would be turned to him when he was trying to control her and use her. But when Lawrence took on the responsibility of defining his own worth and giving himself the love he was trying so hard to get from Annie, he was able to let go of the control and be present with Annie with love.
Over and over I have seen relationships move back into passion when a needy partner learns how to be loving to themselves and come from love rather than neediness.
Is Sexting And Cheating The Same Thing? Retrieve Deleted Text And Then Decide
by: Ed Opperman
Sexting is defined as the act of participating in sexual or flirtatious conversation through text messages. Although many people see this as innocent talk, many others disagree. Often it is the people engaging in this activity that see it as harmless. The ones who see this as cheating are often the partners of the ones doing it. While sexting and cheating may not be quite the same thing, they are often not far apart. If you suspect your lover is engaging in this activity, there are methods to retrieve deleted text to get definite answers regarding the validity of this suspicion.
Cell phone forensic investigators can retrieve deleted text to give you all the details you need about what kind of messages your spouse or partner has been sending and receiving. They can also tell you what numbers were called from a specific phone, as well as who each call was received from and how long these calls lasted. Other information that may be obtained through this type of investigation includes deleted picture messages, video, contact lists, address book entries and even deleted voice mails. All of this information and more can be recovered by a skilled professional quickly and easily.
Although many people attempt it, SIM card readers are not a proper tool to use for getting this information. Often these readers cannot retrieve deleted text effectively. Even when SIM card readers are able to recover some information, it is often damaged or destroyed to some extent in the process. When this information is damaged in this way, it is unusable in most cases making it almost impossible to get definitive answers as to the actions of the person using the phone. Only getting part of the needed information often leads to unsubstantiated conclusions with less than conclusive results proving these actions.
When you turn to a trained professional to retrieve deleted text you get the satisfaction of having your suspicions confirmed. This type of forensic investigation takes very little time to perform and includes a detailed report of all the information which is uncovered during the process. This gives a person verifiable, tangible proof of their suspicions that can be used in the event that a confrontation with the guilty partner ever occurs. This proof will make it very difficult if not impossible for the other person to deny that the events they have been accused of actually did occur.
Copyright (c) 2010 Ed Opperman
Sexting is defined as the act of participating in sexual or flirtatious conversation through text messages. Although many people see this as innocent talk, many others disagree. Often it is the people engaging in this activity that see it as harmless. The ones who see this as cheating are often the partners of the ones doing it. While sexting and cheating may not be quite the same thing, they are often not far apart. If you suspect your lover is engaging in this activity, there are methods to retrieve deleted text to get definite answers regarding the validity of this suspicion.
Cell phone forensic investigators can retrieve deleted text to give you all the details you need about what kind of messages your spouse or partner has been sending and receiving. They can also tell you what numbers were called from a specific phone, as well as who each call was received from and how long these calls lasted. Other information that may be obtained through this type of investigation includes deleted picture messages, video, contact lists, address book entries and even deleted voice mails. All of this information and more can be recovered by a skilled professional quickly and easily.
Although many people attempt it, SIM card readers are not a proper tool to use for getting this information. Often these readers cannot retrieve deleted text effectively. Even when SIM card readers are able to recover some information, it is often damaged or destroyed to some extent in the process. When this information is damaged in this way, it is unusable in most cases making it almost impossible to get definitive answers as to the actions of the person using the phone. Only getting part of the needed information often leads to unsubstantiated conclusions with less than conclusive results proving these actions.
When you turn to a trained professional to retrieve deleted text you get the satisfaction of having your suspicions confirmed. This type of forensic investigation takes very little time to perform and includes a detailed report of all the information which is uncovered during the process. This gives a person verifiable, tangible proof of their suspicions that can be used in the event that a confrontation with the guilty partner ever occurs. This proof will make it very difficult if not impossible for the other person to deny that the events they have been accused of actually did occur.
Copyright (c) 2010 Ed Opperman
Retrieve Deleted Text to Uncover Your Spouse or Partners Sext Messages
by: Ed Opperman
If you found out that your husband was sending sext messages to another woman, or if your wife was texting another man, would you consider it as cheating? Different people have a completely different view on this subject. Some people believe this type of communication is cheating, especially when their partner or spouse has committed to a relationship with them alone. However, there are some individuals that think sexting is nothing more than playful, innocent conversation. If you caught your spouse sexting, the best way to make the decision on whether it is cheating or not would be to retrieve deleted text and sext messages from their cell phone and decide for yourself.
Cell phones have made it so easy to communicate with family, friends, co-workers, partners, and even individuals that a person is having an affair with. When you're unsure if messages your spouse has deleted are actually sext messages, the best thing to do is consult a professional to retrieve deleted text and sext messages from their phone. Regular text and sext messages are only a few types of data that can be recovered. Other information that can be obtained includes names and numbers of contacts, caller ID, videos, pictures and graphics, time and length of the calls that have been made and received, and various other forms of retrievable data.
When this type of investigation is done, it can often ease the mind of partners that feel sure their spouse is cheating behind their back, only to find out their partner is innocent of their suspicions. There are also times when a spouse feels strongly that their husband or wife would not cheat on them, only to find they have been engaging in infidelity for a very long time. Even if a person is simply taking part in innocent flirting, in many cases it has been known to turn into full fledged cheating. When you have questions or suspicions in the back of your mind about the activities of your spouse or partner, an expert investigator can retrieve deleted text and sexting messages from their cell phone and give you the detailed information that can easily answer your suspicions.
When you contract with a private investigator to retrieve deleted text and sexting messages, you will generally receive detailed information of the data that was recovered in about 24 hours. The great part is all you have to do is send your partners cell phone to the expert and they will take care of the rest.
Copyright (c) 2010 Ed Opperman
If you found out that your husband was sending sext messages to another woman, or if your wife was texting another man, would you consider it as cheating? Different people have a completely different view on this subject. Some people believe this type of communication is cheating, especially when their partner or spouse has committed to a relationship with them alone. However, there are some individuals that think sexting is nothing more than playful, innocent conversation. If you caught your spouse sexting, the best way to make the decision on whether it is cheating or not would be to retrieve deleted text and sext messages from their cell phone and decide for yourself.
Cell phones have made it so easy to communicate with family, friends, co-workers, partners, and even individuals that a person is having an affair with. When you're unsure if messages your spouse has deleted are actually sext messages, the best thing to do is consult a professional to retrieve deleted text and sext messages from their phone. Regular text and sext messages are only a few types of data that can be recovered. Other information that can be obtained includes names and numbers of contacts, caller ID, videos, pictures and graphics, time and length of the calls that have been made and received, and various other forms of retrievable data.
When this type of investigation is done, it can often ease the mind of partners that feel sure their spouse is cheating behind their back, only to find out their partner is innocent of their suspicions. There are also times when a spouse feels strongly that their husband or wife would not cheat on them, only to find they have been engaging in infidelity for a very long time. Even if a person is simply taking part in innocent flirting, in many cases it has been known to turn into full fledged cheating. When you have questions or suspicions in the back of your mind about the activities of your spouse or partner, an expert investigator can retrieve deleted text and sexting messages from their cell phone and give you the detailed information that can easily answer your suspicions.
When you contract with a private investigator to retrieve deleted text and sexting messages, you will generally receive detailed information of the data that was recovered in about 24 hours. The great part is all you have to do is send your partners cell phone to the expert and they will take care of the rest.
Copyright (c) 2010 Ed Opperman
How Dumbo Came About: Sex Talk With Your Children
by: Ruth Purple
Every parent dreads this moment. It seems like yesterday when their precious ones are still in diapers. And now they come up to you and ask you how they were made. You freeze; you don’t know what to say. You called your spouse to help you out. Changing your views about the situation might help you out.
If your kid can come up to you and ask you about sex, it only shows your child is very comfortable talking to you and have the confidence you are going to listen to them. Children who can approach their parents this way are less likely to engage in high-risk behaviors.
Once they pop out the question, don’t hesitate to admit that you are uncomfortable with the situation. You can say something like “My mom and dad never talked to me about it, but I need us to talk about anything under the sun… even if it is about sex. If I don’t know the answer- i’ll find it out for you.” It can be quite tricky if your kid is 11 years old and still calls his penis banana or “the bee”.
It’s easier if you started early with them in their toddler years. You can educate them be saying “This is baby’s nose, this is baby’s feet, this is baby’s penis..” As your child grows you can continue to add materials in educating about sex depending on her age and level of understanding.
Giving too much too soon information to your little ones about sex may result to misinformation. It is also much better to take initiative about sex education than to wait for them to ask about it. Take advantage of the situation if you both of you see someone who is pregnant.
“Have you noticed your teacher’s tummy getting bigger and bigger? She has a little baby inside her. Do you know how her baby gets inside her?” then let the talk flow from there. This kind of conversationis less intimidating and they can absorb it easily. Eight to ten year-old kid can usually handle this kind of information.
If your child is around eleven to twelve years old, it is important to include the word love, caring, concern and responsibility when discussing about sex. You should send out messages of the consequences of sex and unwanted pregnancy and how can they protect themselves. It’s also necessary to instill about dating.
As opposed to what they see in televisions and movies- two people don’t sleep together immediately after they meet. In real life there’s such thing as dating where two people give time to know each other very well. They go dancing, malling, movies or just hanging out together and talk.
This will only further confuse your kid. Usually eight years old will ask about why his body is changing and why is it different from girls. You can answer him directly-“Our body has this special chemical inside called hormone which tells whether you’re a boy or a girl- boys have penis and testicles and girls have vagina.
Boys grow hair in their faces and their voice gets deeper as they grow….” Putting in the picture for an eight year-old girl that sooner or later she will be having her menstruation is advisable than later. Telling them as it is builds trust between you and your child. Last but not the least, don’t forget to relax.
What you know is less important than how you respond in this kind of situation. As long as they are aware that they can come up to for whatever subject they need to discuss, then you’re in the right tract.
Every parent dreads this moment. It seems like yesterday when their precious ones are still in diapers. And now they come up to you and ask you how they were made. You freeze; you don’t know what to say. You called your spouse to help you out. Changing your views about the situation might help you out.
If your kid can come up to you and ask you about sex, it only shows your child is very comfortable talking to you and have the confidence you are going to listen to them. Children who can approach their parents this way are less likely to engage in high-risk behaviors.
Once they pop out the question, don’t hesitate to admit that you are uncomfortable with the situation. You can say something like “My mom and dad never talked to me about it, but I need us to talk about anything under the sun… even if it is about sex. If I don’t know the answer- i’ll find it out for you.” It can be quite tricky if your kid is 11 years old and still calls his penis banana or “the bee”.
It’s easier if you started early with them in their toddler years. You can educate them be saying “This is baby’s nose, this is baby’s feet, this is baby’s penis..” As your child grows you can continue to add materials in educating about sex depending on her age and level of understanding.
Giving too much too soon information to your little ones about sex may result to misinformation. It is also much better to take initiative about sex education than to wait for them to ask about it. Take advantage of the situation if you both of you see someone who is pregnant.
“Have you noticed your teacher’s tummy getting bigger and bigger? She has a little baby inside her. Do you know how her baby gets inside her?” then let the talk flow from there. This kind of conversationis less intimidating and they can absorb it easily. Eight to ten year-old kid can usually handle this kind of information.
If your child is around eleven to twelve years old, it is important to include the word love, caring, concern and responsibility when discussing about sex. You should send out messages of the consequences of sex and unwanted pregnancy and how can they protect themselves. It’s also necessary to instill about dating.
As opposed to what they see in televisions and movies- two people don’t sleep together immediately after they meet. In real life there’s such thing as dating where two people give time to know each other very well. They go dancing, malling, movies or just hanging out together and talk.
This will only further confuse your kid. Usually eight years old will ask about why his body is changing and why is it different from girls. You can answer him directly-“Our body has this special chemical inside called hormone which tells whether you’re a boy or a girl- boys have penis and testicles and girls have vagina.
Boys grow hair in their faces and their voice gets deeper as they grow….” Putting in the picture for an eight year-old girl that sooner or later she will be having her menstruation is advisable than later. Telling them as it is builds trust between you and your child. Last but not the least, don’t forget to relax.
What you know is less important than how you respond in this kind of situation. As long as they are aware that they can come up to for whatever subject they need to discuss, then you’re in the right tract.
Stylish and Mature Sexy Swimsuits Trends
by: Debbie Cos
While shopping for swimwear, there are three options that should be considered. First, it should be considered which styles are going to best flatter the body and second, the venue where the swimwear is going to be worn should be taken into account to determine which styles are suitable and lastly, swimwear trends should be considered to ensure that stylish options are chosen to maintain your high sense of personal style.
Are you planning a cruise or travel vacation for the upcoming summer season? Here are some stylish options that have been created by the top designers and styles that have inspired designer inspired looks that can be suited to every budget, and appropriate for any vacation:
Bandeau swimwear is an option that is becoming a classic style and can be worn by women of any age. Though the top is best suited for women with a smaller bust, it is one of the most versatile options that are available.
Rucching through the side of the bathing suit is an effective way to create a slimming silhouette and can add interest to a one piece.
Sweetheart necklines are making a comeback for the summer season of 2010 and they can be seen through all of the latest styles. Popular in one and two pieces they can draw attention upward and create a slimming appearance.
Accessorize the stylish swimwear options with cover ups and accessories like bracelets and sandals to create a stylish and put-together look.
Nowhere are swimwear choices more important than a cruise, as most cruises take place through sunny destinations and allow tourists to spend time sitting by luxurious pools and spending time basking in the sun at some of the most popular beaches in the world. Learning about the latest trends can be as simple as opening a spring fashion magazine!
While shopping for swimwear, there are three options that should be considered. First, it should be considered which styles are going to best flatter the body and second, the venue where the swimwear is going to be worn should be taken into account to determine which styles are suitable and lastly, swimwear trends should be considered to ensure that stylish options are chosen to maintain your high sense of personal style.
Are you planning a cruise or travel vacation for the upcoming summer season? Here are some stylish options that have been created by the top designers and styles that have inspired designer inspired looks that can be suited to every budget, and appropriate for any vacation:
Bandeau swimwear is an option that is becoming a classic style and can be worn by women of any age. Though the top is best suited for women with a smaller bust, it is one of the most versatile options that are available.
Rucching through the side of the bathing suit is an effective way to create a slimming silhouette and can add interest to a one piece.
Sweetheart necklines are making a comeback for the summer season of 2010 and they can be seen through all of the latest styles. Popular in one and two pieces they can draw attention upward and create a slimming appearance.
Accessorize the stylish swimwear options with cover ups and accessories like bracelets and sandals to create a stylish and put-together look.
Nowhere are swimwear choices more important than a cruise, as most cruises take place through sunny destinations and allow tourists to spend time sitting by luxurious pools and spending time basking in the sun at some of the most popular beaches in the world. Learning about the latest trends can be as simple as opening a spring fashion magazine!
Sex Toys for Men, Are You Serious???
by: Shannon Oliver
Men aren’t complex beings. Most have clear, well defined preferences. Adult toys, for men, are simply a means to help relieve tension as opposed to women’s products which can be geared towards fun and foreplay. Toy manufacturers recognize and understand the difference and thus take function over form when creating new products for men. Some men’s sex toys are aimed at enhancing confidence and can be really handy tools in providing the assurance that some men need to have a healthy sex life.
Sex toys aren’t always designed specifically for pleasure sake. Enter the Cockring and penis extension. While penis extensions are generally made from silicone or rubber in order to replicate the feeling of skin for both parties involved, the cockring can come in many forms and in some instances with a different title. Cockrings, loverings, Cock and ball harnesses, cock straps and the list goes on. They all serve one basic purpose…to keep the captain standing tall. Manufacturers have been very creative recently introducing extra features such as clitoral and anal stimulators, which have been a huge hit with consumers that are always looking for something bigger and better. Extensions are a great way to add a little bit of length and girth every once in a while, but make sure the extension fits tightly onto the penis to avoid losing your tools down the mine shaft.
The most commonly used male sex toy is the male masturbator, commonly known as a stroker. They come in a variety of shapes, sizes and colors, but all serve the same purpose at the end of the day. In their most basic form, they are a tubular silicone or latex structure, designed to simulate, surprise..surprise, a woman’s vagina. They are very safe and easy to use and thus are becoming very popular with men that are looking for something a little more interesting than the trusty right hand.
Probably the most controversial of the men’s sex toys would be the blow up doll. Those who have used them rave about them, but there are still a large number of men out there that still find the use of blow up dolls as a bit of a weird and unusual fetish. Blow up dolls are, as they are described in their name, a replica of a woman that can be blown up to full human size. They usually come with 3 holes being the mouth, vagina and anus to give the user the choice depending on how they are feeling on the day. Commonly used for novelty gifts and bucks party gags, the modern blow up dolls may come with vibrating holes, depending on how much money you want to spend. In Australia, you can purchase a blow up doll for as low as $25 all the way up to $500 if you are looking for a girl with all the bells and whistles.
Erection problems and size insecurities can be devastating to a man’s confidence and thus the penis pump serves as one of the most widely purchased male sex toys on the market. Penis pumps are believed to promote blood flow to the penis resulting in longer lasting and larger erections. The penis is inserted into the tube or shaft of the device which has a rubber ring around the base. The user then pumps the air out of the top of the shaft through a suction thus creating a pressurized enclosure. The vacuum created expands the penis inside and reduces the amount of blood outflow. Whilst not backed by any scientific studies, the penis pump is backed by many satisfied customers worldwide. Care should be taken when using these sorts of devices as there have been reports of ruptured blood vessels due to prolonged use. Proceed with caution!
Male sex toys can be weird and wonderful, or just simply functional, but one thing is for sure…they add something different to masturbation and sex, that has become a routine or habitual act for many people. Try something new…you never know. You might like it!
Men aren’t complex beings. Most have clear, well defined preferences. Adult toys, for men, are simply a means to help relieve tension as opposed to women’s products which can be geared towards fun and foreplay. Toy manufacturers recognize and understand the difference and thus take function over form when creating new products for men. Some men’s sex toys are aimed at enhancing confidence and can be really handy tools in providing the assurance that some men need to have a healthy sex life.
Sex toys aren’t always designed specifically for pleasure sake. Enter the Cockring and penis extension. While penis extensions are generally made from silicone or rubber in order to replicate the feeling of skin for both parties involved, the cockring can come in many forms and in some instances with a different title. Cockrings, loverings, Cock and ball harnesses, cock straps and the list goes on. They all serve one basic purpose…to keep the captain standing tall. Manufacturers have been very creative recently introducing extra features such as clitoral and anal stimulators, which have been a huge hit with consumers that are always looking for something bigger and better. Extensions are a great way to add a little bit of length and girth every once in a while, but make sure the extension fits tightly onto the penis to avoid losing your tools down the mine shaft.
The most commonly used male sex toy is the male masturbator, commonly known as a stroker. They come in a variety of shapes, sizes and colors, but all serve the same purpose at the end of the day. In their most basic form, they are a tubular silicone or latex structure, designed to simulate, surprise..surprise, a woman’s vagina. They are very safe and easy to use and thus are becoming very popular with men that are looking for something a little more interesting than the trusty right hand.
Probably the most controversial of the men’s sex toys would be the blow up doll. Those who have used them rave about them, but there are still a large number of men out there that still find the use of blow up dolls as a bit of a weird and unusual fetish. Blow up dolls are, as they are described in their name, a replica of a woman that can be blown up to full human size. They usually come with 3 holes being the mouth, vagina and anus to give the user the choice depending on how they are feeling on the day. Commonly used for novelty gifts and bucks party gags, the modern blow up dolls may come with vibrating holes, depending on how much money you want to spend. In Australia, you can purchase a blow up doll for as low as $25 all the way up to $500 if you are looking for a girl with all the bells and whistles.
Erection problems and size insecurities can be devastating to a man’s confidence and thus the penis pump serves as one of the most widely purchased male sex toys on the market. Penis pumps are believed to promote blood flow to the penis resulting in longer lasting and larger erections. The penis is inserted into the tube or shaft of the device which has a rubber ring around the base. The user then pumps the air out of the top of the shaft through a suction thus creating a pressurized enclosure. The vacuum created expands the penis inside and reduces the amount of blood outflow. Whilst not backed by any scientific studies, the penis pump is backed by many satisfied customers worldwide. Care should be taken when using these sorts of devices as there have been reports of ruptured blood vessels due to prolonged use. Proceed with caution!
Male sex toys can be weird and wonderful, or just simply functional, but one thing is for sure…they add something different to masturbation and sex, that has become a routine or habitual act for many people. Try something new…you never know. You might like it!
Marriage and Sex
by: Hanna Brulska
According to Wikipedia, Marriage is an institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually intimate and sexual, are acknowledged in a variety of ways, depending on the culture or subculture. Historically, marriage institution has been created by society and regulated by government as a union of one man and one woman to organize, regulate and protect organization and structure of civilized culture. From the social order point of view, people have been getting married based on legal, social, emotional, economical, spiritual, and religious reasons. Emotionally, we always expect marriage to be declaration of eternal love. In reality, are interpersonal relationships: intimate and sexual still continue being major part of marriage through years of commitment?
In the beginning of marriage, intimacy and sex are very important for majority of couples. As life goes on, according to different studies, variety and frequency of married sex can not be even compared with sex before or outside marriage. Married couples usually have sexual or romantic activity one or two times a month. On average basis, married couples have sex with their spouse no more than once a week which ends up being 58 times a year according to data collected from the General Social Survey, which has tracked the social behaviors of Americans since 1972. This rate of recurrence would be completely unacceptable for majority of single people or people having extramarital relations. For majority of couples, as years go on, regularity as well as assortment of married sex is dropping drastically bringing marriage to a stage of being sexless. Fifteen percent of all married couples have not had sex with their spouse in six months to one year period with tendency to continue living in a sexless marriage.
What these tendencies come from? Do all of these people have very low sex drives, and may even be asexual? Are reasons of sexless marriage physical and differs from couple to couple, or is it social?
Being married means having responsibilities and obligations of having children, getting a career, and providing for a family. Having good sex rarely made a priority... The biggest problem is that it’s very seldom to be acceptable for both spouses. Majority of times, lack of sex is unthinkable and frustrating for at least one spouse, and feeling sexually unsatisfied can result in all sorts of issues. Marriages that stand up for many years can reach a certain point where passion fades out, sex becomes dreadful and is often faked, leading to numerous marriage and sex problems.
We should be practical and reasonable enough to admit the fact that maintaining the passion alive forever is not realistic for majority of people. Passion has a tension to simply fade out making sex boring and undesirable. Excitement and anticipation are gone. Passion and spark disappear. This situation becomes critical if one partner does not want or can not continue living in a neutral stage and can not leave a marriage.
Are extramarital relationships a solution to the problem? Not for society standards and not from morality point of view.
… I am one of a married people you know. I’m a successful businessman who has great family, two beautiful children and a great career. My marriage became sexless around fifteen years ago as my wife had no desire for sex and I finally gave up after years of begging. Being completely frustrated, five years ago I started looking through married dating sites and eventually began having an affair with a woman who was also in a sexless marriage. I was not looking for a new partner every day, neither I was interested in leaving my family or breaking somebody else. Our five-year monogamous relationship likely saved both our marriages…
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According to Wikipedia, Marriage is an institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually intimate and sexual, are acknowledged in a variety of ways, depending on the culture or subculture. Historically, marriage institution has been created by society and regulated by government as a union of one man and one woman to organize, regulate and protect organization and structure of civilized culture. From the social order point of view, people have been getting married based on legal, social, emotional, economical, spiritual, and religious reasons. Emotionally, we always expect marriage to be declaration of eternal love. In reality, are interpersonal relationships: intimate and sexual still continue being major part of marriage through years of commitment?
In the beginning of marriage, intimacy and sex are very important for majority of couples. As life goes on, according to different studies, variety and frequency of married sex can not be even compared with sex before or outside marriage. Married couples usually have sexual or romantic activity one or two times a month. On average basis, married couples have sex with their spouse no more than once a week which ends up being 58 times a year according to data collected from the General Social Survey, which has tracked the social behaviors of Americans since 1972. This rate of recurrence would be completely unacceptable for majority of single people or people having extramarital relations. For majority of couples, as years go on, regularity as well as assortment of married sex is dropping drastically bringing marriage to a stage of being sexless. Fifteen percent of all married couples have not had sex with their spouse in six months to one year period with tendency to continue living in a sexless marriage.
What these tendencies come from? Do all of these people have very low sex drives, and may even be asexual? Are reasons of sexless marriage physical and differs from couple to couple, or is it social?
Being married means having responsibilities and obligations of having children, getting a career, and providing for a family. Having good sex rarely made a priority... The biggest problem is that it’s very seldom to be acceptable for both spouses. Majority of times, lack of sex is unthinkable and frustrating for at least one spouse, and feeling sexually unsatisfied can result in all sorts of issues. Marriages that stand up for many years can reach a certain point where passion fades out, sex becomes dreadful and is often faked, leading to numerous marriage and sex problems.
We should be practical and reasonable enough to admit the fact that maintaining the passion alive forever is not realistic for majority of people. Passion has a tension to simply fade out making sex boring and undesirable. Excitement and anticipation are gone. Passion and spark disappear. This situation becomes critical if one partner does not want or can not continue living in a neutral stage and can not leave a marriage.
Are extramarital relationships a solution to the problem? Not for society standards and not from morality point of view.
… I am one of a married people you know. I’m a successful businessman who has great family, two beautiful children and a great career. My marriage became sexless around fifteen years ago as my wife had no desire for sex and I finally gave up after years of begging. Being completely frustrated, five years ago I started looking through married dating sites and eventually began having an affair with a woman who was also in a sexless marriage. I was not looking for a new partner every day, neither I was interested in leaving my family or breaking somebody else. Our five-year monogamous relationship likely saved both our marriages…
Are you married, but not dead? Interested in discreet married dating? Welcome to FindNewPassion.com - premiere dating website for married and singles. Join free - thousands of members around the world are waiting for you.
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